The waters surrounded me, even to my soul;
The deep closed around me;
Weeds were wrapped around my head.
I went down to the moorings of the mountains;
The earth with its bars closed behind me forever;
Yet You have brought up my life from the pit,
O Lord, my God. Jonah 2:5-6 (NKJV)
“My soul is overwhelmed with sorrow—crushed with grief—to the point of death… My God, why have you abandoned me?” —Jesus Christ
Now we see things imperfectly, like puzzling reflections in a mirror, but then we will see everything with perfect clarity. All that I know now is partial and incomplete, but then I will know everything completely, just as God now knows me completely. 1 Corinthians 13:12 (NLT)
The weight of the burden is too much to bear. Something has to give. Something needs to change.
But change is challenging… stressful even. So why change? How do you change ‘normal’… what feels right?
How do you change what you want, believe you need, and feel you deserve? How much change will it take?
“The search for wholeness compels every person, every hour of our lives, whether we know it or not. We ache to be made whole again. And only one person on earth can do this for the heart and soul he himself created.” —John Eldredge
How do you know the difference between what is right and what feels right?
What is truth? What are the lies twisting your beliefs and distorting your values?
Is this all there is? Is this as good as it gets? Will I ever be happy?
“Pain is unmasked… everyone knows that something is wrong when they’re being hurt.” —C.S. Lewis
What all is in the way of you really living your life? How would you assess your own life experience until now? Are you on the road to enjoying your life, or are you lost somewhere, merely hoping to survive yet another day?
How has a lifetime’s worth of experiences affected (or should I say, infected) how you see yourself? How have your values been distorted and beliefs twisted by pain and struggle? How has what you’ve suffered fueled feelings of failure and fear, feeding into a deeply rooted sense of inadequacy, and driving misdirected behavioral choices producing undesired outcomes?
“I want to wake up in the morning saying, ‘Good morning, God,’ instead of waking up and saying, ‘Oh God, it’s morning.'” —Wynonna Judd
How does the weight of life’s challenges affect how you approach your day? Why take on the next challenge when you’re so sure in your gut that it will only lead to certain disappointment?
When tireless efforts lead to betrayal and failed expectations, wounds run deep and the constant trying feels so futile. It feels like a dark cloud hovering just above you. You carry the burden of a prevailing sense of defeat; feeling worthless having lost all confidence in yourself. So perhaps you isolate, hidden behind the veil of doubt in what you can do about any of it. Who can blame you for giving up? But, how will the behavioral choices associated with giving up—alcohol and drugs, cheating, lying, self-harm, and possibly suicide—truly remedy your discomfort?
How do my coping practices draw me closer to what I want most for my life? Or, how does my “pain management” methods drive me farther away from what I truly want for my life?
“Progress means getting nearer to the place you want to be. And if you have taken a wrong turning, then to go forward does not get you any nearer. If you’re on the wrong road, progress means doing an about-turn and walking back to the right road.” —C.S. Lewis
How will turning to this or to that remedy actually help you? Or, is your antidote for discomfort a mirage? The remedy looks good from a distance, but up close, when intensifying your pain, is not so attractive after all. How does settling for counterfeit gains only add to your loss? How does settling for less aggravate your problem, escalating your stress, increasing the severity of your discomfort? The reality is that settling for less pulls you farther away from what you know at your core is best.
The remedy is the means to escape. The truth is that whenever I leave from a place, I enter in to another place. So, to escape from something, is to enter into something else. Is it really less painful there? Maybe it is for a time. But when the remedy includes a logical consequence of increased pain, now I regret my choices. I might even wish I was back where I was before I fled for what I thought were greener pastures.
The more I am separated from that which I truly want, the more it hurts me. I don’t even have to know what I’m missing. Something in me always knows. I’ll buy into the lie that the thing I settle for is good enough—perhaps even believe the thing makes me happy—until I experience the hurt connected to what I settle for. I don’t need to hit some kind of bottom in order to change my way, but it’s not in my nature to initiate the change process until I hurt bad enough to need to change. It’s the pain I experience that creates enough contrast between what I really want, and what I’ve been left with. My pain is what motivates me to do something about it. Until I finally want better, why change?
Have I worked hard enough to drill home this point? Until what we believe in fails us, we tend not to dispute what we believe works for us.
FREEdom from MEdom Project exists to inspire hope within hurting people to find healing and redemption through recovery God’s way into the best of a new life experience. Life is meant to be enjoyed by way of relationship. Relationship is meant to be experienced freely, not wrought with disharmony and conflict. Love is not merely a notion, but is meant to be realized through your experience. It is not enough to hopelessly survive the noisy disturbance of another day.
The Lord longs to be gracious to you;
therefore he will rise up to show you compassion.
For the Lord is a God of justice.
Blessed are all who wait for him! Isaiah 30:18 (NIV)
It’s time to get up and get moving… to thrive, empowered by God to succeed and enjoy your life; free to fully experience the truest essence of love that God intends for you. God made you and wants so much to share in the experience of living with you. God desires to restore you from the broken places into the whole person he made you to be.
I recognize that there are some who consider the reality of God’s existence to be suspect, or simply don’t believe it. For the those who have stumbled onto this website not sure about God, I pose the following question: If God didn’t always exist, what did? Something always existed, and it had to be alive in some way to produce life. It’s the only thing that rationally makes the most sense. This is not meant to defend a religious position, but to appeal to your intellectual (logical) sensibilities.I struggle to wrap my mind around and ever-existent God, but something always existed. If not God, then what? What banged?
Anyway, once accepting God as your maker, everything after that is at least possible… everything! And if God made life, he must have made it for good, or what would be the point? If God, then is good, it would appear reasonable that God wants good for you. If wounded or broken, your maker can make you better. Just as a loving father wants the best for his kids, God wants the best for you.
For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you,” declares the Lord, “and will bring you back from captivity.” Jeremiah 29:11-14 (NIV)
“Creatures are not born with desires unless satisfaction for those desires exists… If I find in myself a desire which no experience in this world can satisfy, the most probable explanation is that I was made for another world.” —C.S. Lewis
I cried out, “I do believe, but help me overcome my unbelief!” Mark 9:24 (NLT)
“Although I love to take control, it is so overwhelming and I know that it is not mine. That is why the load is so heavy when I try to carry it. I do that because I stop trusting that God will take care of it.” —Janet, Freedom Finder
Turn to me and have mercy, for I am alone and in deep distress.
My problems go from bad to worse. Oh, save me from them all!
Feel my pain and see my trouble. Forgive all my sins. Psalms 25:16-18 (NLT)
“There is a sorrow that the soul must go through in letting go of what it thought it loved. We have to come to the place where we truly get it that what God wants for us is GOOD. To some degree, our resistance to his will reveals that we do not really believe it is good—at least not the kind of ‘good’ we want.” —Francis Leeman
FREEdom from MEdom Project is not just another pretentious ‘Christianity versus psychology’ narrative on how to cure the addictive lifestyle riddled with dysfunction. While never apologizing for that which is sensible about new life empowered by faith in God through relationship with Jesus, FREEdom from MEdom Project is not a slave to religious dogma and recognizes the hypocrisy of people who say one thing but then engage in behavior inconsistent with their words. I tend to struggle with that myself.
The truth is that our brains have been short-circuited by the problem of the fallen nature of people to be selfish. There is a scientific reality concerning the human brain that dictates—even predetermines—our thinking, feelings, beliefs, and behavior.
Neurobiology is the study of cells of the nervous system and the organization of these cells into functional circuits that process information and mediate behavior.*
We make behavioral choices according to how our brains process information every moment of our lives. When we ought to think before we act, we react impulsively to what we feel in the moment, betrayed by emotion. It’s indeed our reality that emotion tends to override rational thought, and so we behave accordingly. It seems we can’t help but to trust our feelings. We need help filtering what we feel through what we truly know from rational thought makes the most sense.
Of course, the emotional function of the human brain is essential to our life experience. To experience joy we need to feel it for it to mean anything. We were created to feel what we experience. The problem we share is that trusting flawed wounded feelings convinces rational thought to believe in something irrational in the pursuit of happiness. Irrational beliefs trigger behavioral responses fueling choices that in time, or all at once, produce harmful outcomes that threaten to jeopardize our quality of life.
We need help confronting the neurobiological reality of what feeds into feelings, fuels thoughts and beliefs, and drives behavior.
Since the fall of the human condition, it is a neurobiological reality that we’re born into selfishness. So we all struggle with an innate sense of what we feel (believe) we deserve. The wires in our brains are entangled to want what we want when we want it, which of course is, well… right now. There is no escaping it, and on our own there isn’t much we can do about it. When it’s a choice between this, which is best, or that, which has appeal but pales in comparison (and potentially harmful), betrayed by emotion we’ll too often choose what feels good in the moment, at the expense of what we mindfully know is best. We then regret the outcome we have to live with, grieving the loss of what we know we value most.
“I was so obsessed with me and the reasons I might be dissatisfied that I couldn’t focus on other people. When I find myself taking the wrong step, I think it’s because I’m trying to protect myself instead of trying to do God’s work.” —Barack Obama^
What a mess! How do we best identify and examine irrational beliefs? How do we confront and challenge irrational beliefs when we so struggle to accept that they’re irrational? Are we doomed to the logical consequences of our making? Only the One who made us in the first place can restore us into what we were created to be… rewire our brains, so to speak.
Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted. Hebrews 2:18 (NIV)
What FREEdom from MEdom Project intends to be is an honest in-depth study and discussion of the transformative life-changing process; going deep into the process of how we think and behave. FREEdom from MEdom Project is a vehicle to unveiling truth for the purpose of opening doors into a new life experience; targeting proven realistic solutions that you already know rationally make the most sense.
Why stumble all over the internet when you can find most of what you’re looking for at one location? The vision for this site has always been to develop one location full of rooms loaded with helpful resources. Contained within each room is an accessible library full of variety and potential for freedom finders to experience something authentically better and hopeful. And most importantly, that freedom finders would come to experience relationship with the giver of new life.
Have you never heard? Have you never understood?
The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of all the earth.
He never grows weak or weary. No one can measure the depths of his understanding.
He gives power to the weak and strength to the powerless.
Even youths will become weak and tired, and young men will fall in exhaustion.
But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles.
They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:28-31 (NLT)
Peruse the menu above and you will find a wealth of opportunity to be informed by credible sources about symptomatic addictive behavior (Addiction ED) and mental health-related issues and symptoms (MH ED). If you’re feeling overwhelmed by anxiety, stress, depression, and perhaps a sense of hopelessness, there are dozens of helpful applicable resources and access to crisis resources and hotlines. I accumulated data for the educational material in Addiction ED and Mental Health ED from online research to make FREEdom from MEdom Project a kind of one-stop resource center for hurting people in need of healing and recovery.
FREEdom from MEdom Project intends to be a trustworthy resource striving to bridge the divide between clinically evidenced-based therapeutic approaches and biblical truth about recovery. You will become well-informed concerning the true nature of addiction to self from both a clinical and, yes, biblical perspective. The initial objective is to break through thick emotional barriers resistant to change by awakening rational thought relevant to what makes the most sense.
“The human spirit will not even begin to try to surrender self-will as long as all seems to be well with it. Now error and sin both have this property, that the deeper they are the less their victim suspects their existence; they are masked evil. Pain is unmasked, unmistakable evil; everyone knows that something is wrong when they’re being hurt.” —C.S. Lewis
What are the real differences between guilt and shame, anger and resentment, disappointment and failure, helplessness and hopelessness? What does it really mean to lay your burden down? How does surrendering to the process of recovery God’s way make the most sense?
“The fool tries to adjust the truth so he does not have to adjust to it.” —Dr. Henry Cloud
It wise to adjust your life to the truth. It is foolish to believe you can adjust the truth to your life. FREEdom from MEdom Project goes into the deep places; and with God’s help and direction, hopes to facilitate understanding and growth to help you to realize by experience freedom from the places where you feel stuck, trapped, and afraid. Freed into a life that is all about really living; not merely surviving. The promises in Scripture offer for us direction, finding our way out from under the weight of what burdens us. The Word of God is an arsenal with the weapons necessary to fight through the obstacles along the way to experiencing peace and joy.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength. Philippians 4:6-7, 11-13 (NIV)
“Without the guidance this program gave me, who knows where I would be today. Today, I am happily living out my life. This program laid a foundation that I neglected to build growing up. It gave me real direction and the resources to make clean decisions. My life is in no way perfect. Life still has its problems, but I now can rationally work my way through them.” —Edward Stermin, Freedom Finder
The love of God in recovery is so much more than the feeling of being loved. God’s love is about acceptance into his family, without reservation through authentic relationship. God’s love is never suspect but rather affirming and reassuring. You’ll always know to trust it. It’s God’s love that fuels the soul. It is the experience of God’s love that makes all the difference and makes it all worth it.
Through proven strategies identified here, you will acquire tools to cope and respond better to your world as you experience it, confronting present challenges, empowered to let go of the past and move ahead, as wounds are healed by the touch of God’s mercy, restoring quality of life, tethered to the assurance of hope in the experience of what is profound truth.
Jesus said, “I can of myself do nothing. As I hear, I judge; and my judgment is righteous, because I do not seek my own will but the will of the Father who sent me.” John 5:30 (NKJV)
You will be encouraged to enter into recovery God’s way, just as Jesus did while fully human, wrought with human temptation, struggle, and heartache. As Jesus understood applied to his plight, you need to ADMIT what you’re incapable of; that on your own you’re in trouble and need help. You need to BELIEVE that you can hear from God to judge rightly in your choices. Be encouraged to COMMIT to your recovery just as Jesus did his; surrendering your will into the will of God; which is to bless you with his best for your best. Why would you live any other way? Jesus himself laid out the plans for your redemption; to be reconciled and restored into right relationship with God; living in the experience of his love.
Your sin has been removed from your past, present, and future. The stone keeping you in bondage has been rolled away. Resurrection from hopeless doubt is yours. Deliverance from pain into peace is yours. Shed the grave clothes and leave behind all of the toxic waste. Step into the sweet aroma that is freedom into new life.
When your life was consumed by flames, the fireman found you. When wounded and broken, the doctor healed you. When all was lost, the carpenter rebuilt your life and restored it’s beauty. What was once a cottage is made into a castle. May that be said of you. He who made you, loves you, and is wanting and willing to restore you; to make you whole again.
Now a certain man was there who had an infirmity thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying there, and knew that he already had been in that condition a long time, He said to him, “Do you want to be made well?” The sick man answered Him, “Sir, I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred up.” Jesus said to him, “Rise, take up your bed and walk.” And immediately the man was made well, took up his bed, and walked. John 5:5-9 (NKJV)
“Whatever’s drowning you in fear, in discouragement, in sadness… Give it to Jesus. What’s over your head is under His feet.” —Adrian Rogers**
Invite God to move in to live in the deep places within you. Lay the full weight of your burden down and then enter in to bathe in the healing pool of God’s mercy. Soak yourself in the lather of his generous favor.
Since we have a great High Priest who has entered heaven, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold firmly to what we believe. This High Priest of ours understands our weaknesses, for he faced all of the same testings we do, yet he did not sin. So let us come boldly to the throne of our gracious God. There we will receive his mercy, and we will find grace to help us when we need it most. Hebrews 4:14-16 (NLT)
“It is impossible to see the greatness of God and the mercies of God and not pray with confidence.” —Adrian Rogers
You make known to me the path of life; you will fill me with joy in your presence,
with eternal pleasures at your right hand. Psalms 16:11 (NIV)
Allow God to restore you into what you were always meant to be, free to live in the best of what he wants and has for you. Once you have known the substance of real hope, and experienced the evidence of God in your life, you’ll see clearly that living by faith in relationship with God makes the most sense in the deepest places of who you are and what you value.
The thief comes only to steal, kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. John 10:10 (NIV)
FREEdom from MEdom is my journey into what I believe to be authentic recovery. You’ll find me to be transparent in much of what I write. I need to trust God each day in those vulnerable places where I tend to struggle. I am motivated to do and be better in this life experience and so I write about recovery from the broken places. I am willing to “go there” with you, if that’s alright. It can get uncomfortable, but I suppose it comes with the territory when it comes to the change that really matters and (repeating myself yet again) makes the most sense.
It is time to call this for what it really is so that the change process into new life can be realized—experienced—in relationship with Christ. It’s time to let go—get out of our own way—and let God do what only God does best. Please join me on this wonderful journey into the very best of what God has and wants for us.
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“I have gone through the FREEdom from MEdom Project then concluded that it is divine; my heart is deeply touched. I have been touched by your vision for delivering addicted people. May this vision that is still in the womb be quickened to maturity. May God expand your vision mightily all over the world. I’m moved to pray for this ministry because it is a unique one… I know that this wave shall cause a great revival in our land.” —Leonard Walubengo, Pastor, Nairobi, Kenya
Well, then… I encourage you to seek out the deeper truths of a life restored into the fullness of a far better life; made whole by the One who made you to live in the first place… CLICK HERE!
He reached down from heaven and rescued me; he drew me out of deep waters.
He rescued me from my powerful enemies, from those who hated me and were too strong for me.
They attacked me at a moment when I was in distress, but the Lord supported me.
He led me to a place of safety; he rescued me because he delights in me. Psalms 18:16-19 (NLT)
I WAS lost, but NOW I am found.
I WAS blind, but NOW I see!