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\"\"<\/a>It is not how much money you have but how you spend it. Spending money for emotional comfort is habit forming, and can be addictive, just like a drug.\u00a0<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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If you are having problems with your finances it may be that have an addiction to spending money. This may seem bizarre given that addiction is commonly linked with alcoholics, drug addicts and gamblers. But addiction is a behaviour that many people use at some time or another to change their mood.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Jim Orford, PhD in the addiction Research Unit of Institute of Psychiatry and author of Excessive Appetites<\/em>, one of the leading key texts in addiction, writes that “an addiction is an excessive appetite whatever its object and the personal inclinations of appetitive behaviour may be used by people to change their emotions.”\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

It is usually the small shopping excursions that do the most damage to your budget. Those cheap items in the fashion stores can make a huge dent in your wallet over time. A pound here and two pounds there adds up, and if you are needing a pick-me-up this is not the way to do it.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Justifiying Your Impulsive Shopping Spree<\/span><\/h3>\n

In an impulsive shopping spree reasonable thinking has disappeared. The Collins Pocket Dictionary<\/em>, (1981) defines impulse as “a sudden inclination to act without thought.” <\/em>So, if you are not thinking you cannot be in control of your actions, and you leave yourself wide open for anything to happen, which is what happens in addiction.<\/span><\/p>\n

Being driven by justifications in spending money such as “I gotta have it, it is so cheap, I need it now” is only imploring your behaviour and giving yourself reasons to continue using the behaviour. Your actions are already out of control.<\/span><\/p>\n

Read more at Suite101: Money and Addiction: Are Your Spending Habits out of Control and Getting you into Debt?<\/a><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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What Is Spending Addiction\u2014And How Do I Know If I Have It?<\/strong>
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\nThe dictionary defines addiction as a means “to devote or surrender oneself to something habitually or obsessively; behavior that impairs the performance of a vital function(s), a harmful development.” Addiction causes you to lose your sense of balance and rationality. Beneath all addictions is a longing for immediate gratification–to feel good, powerful, worthy of admiration, and problem-free–and an insistence on ignoring the long-range, self-destructive implications of the behavior.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you suffer from spending addiction, one out-of-control shopping spree is never enough. Neighborhood malls and Internet shopping sites possess a mesmerizing magnetic appeal for you. You give the priciest, most lavish gifts. Your purchases reflect how knowledgeable you are about all the trendiest brands and designer labels. When you dine out with friends or business associates, you\u2019re invariably the one who insists on picking up the tab\u2014whether you can afford to, or not.<\/span><\/p>\n

In spite of negative consequences that inevitably catch up with you–such as guilt, debt, or feeling ashamed and secretive about your compulsion to buy things–you find yourself on yet another shopping binge, charging or writing checks for things you don\u2019t really need and may never even use. You may lie about how much you’ve spent (to yourself and to those close to you), conceal price tags and receipts, and do financial gymnastics in an attempt to juggle your finances and keep up with monthly payment demands. Spending addiction is an attempt to try to \u201cbuy\u201d happiness\u2014to feel admired, to feel accepted, to feel empowered, to push away troubling feelings, like self-doubt or self-disappointment\u2014and can risk ruining everything you hold dear.<\/span><\/p>\n

How Can You Become Addicted To A Behavior?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

There are chemical messengers known as neurotransmitters that carry communication from your brain to throughout your body. When you\u2019re anxious, nervous, or feeling worried (like when self-critical thoughts start creeping in), you get a flood of panic-inducing epinephrine that can feel like pure jet fuel. When something happens that makes you feel especially good (like when you buy something!), you get a rush of incredibly satisfying neurotransmitters called serotonins that feels GREAT.<\/span><\/p>\n

Spending addiction causes \u201cI\u2019ve got to buy something NOW\u201d behavior. Each “cha-ching!” of the cash register or credit card “Approved!” message makes you feel so good, you get enough of a chemical rush to drown in. One purchase is never enough. You want to feel that exhilarating “high” again, and again, and again–and keep those nagging, distressing feelings at arm’s length. And so you go out and buy something.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ve become intoxicated by your own behavior. The only thing that feels important is to be able to continue spending–because shopping for and acquiring new things makes you feel so good about yourself, about your life, about everything! Just like the definition for addiction says, you have surrendered yourself to a behavior that\u2019s habitual, obsessive, and impairs your vital functioning.<\/span><\/p>\n

What\u2019s Behind Spending Addiction?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Spending addiction is a symptom\u2014or flashing red light warning sign–that there are deep-rooted feelings you\u2019re trying to avoid facing. Indulging yourself in shopping helps numb those troubling feelings\u2014for a while. Every time you try to stop the pattern of compulsive spending, you find you have to deal with the distressing feelings \u201ccold turkey,\u201d and the panic and fear that pops up is almost indescribable. Even though you may have promised yourself you were going to really curb your spending, in an attempt to feel better fast, you go on yet another shopping binge.<\/span><\/p>\n

What feelings could be so distressingly terrible that they’re capable of sending you on a spending path of self destruction? Maybe you\u2019re afraid that you\u2019re not as attractive or successful as you\u2019d like to be. Perhaps your fear stems from believing that the real you isn\u2019t lovable. Or maybe you\u2019re afraid that the fa\u00e7ade\u2014the \u201couter\u201d you–you\u2019ve worked so hard to build and have maintained so painstakingly will crack, and that others will then see what, in your mind, is behind that front: that you\u2019re a fraud, a pretender, a failure.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you have spending addiction, what you\u2019re actually attempting to “buy” is to be liked and admired by others and to not feel consumed by self-doubt and self-disappointment. It doesn\u2019t matter how much money you have, how successful you are, or what prestige you hold in your community, it\u2019s the inside of you that feels empty and insignificant. When you\u2019re out there spending money, that gaping emotional Grand Canyon inside of you feels nearly filled and–if only for a little while–you feel on top of the world.<\/span><\/p>\n

How Do You Know If You\u2019re Suffering From Spending Addiction?<\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Heavy-duty denial is a major component of addictive behavior. In order to determine whether or not you\u2019re suffering from spending addiction, you\u2019re going to have to do a scathingly honest \u201caudit\u201d of your spending habits: how much and how often you spend; what damage your spending causes to your bank account, your work, your family, and your very personal life; and, most importantly, what feelings of fear and\/or insecurity your spending habits attempt to cover up.<\/span><\/p>\n

Recognizing you may have an addiction is the first big step towards recovery. If you suspect that spending is a likely source of problems for you, you might consider talking with a therapist. Together you can look at what motivates you to buy things and how your spending habits affect the core quality of your life, which is to say, how it shapes the way you relate to those close to you, how you imagine you are regarded by others, and how you really feel about yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

Addictive behavior is treatable. If you truly want to put a stop to how your spending habits are taking over your life, therapy can provide insight that will help you un-learn counter-productive behavior, and guide the way to developing new coping skills that will allow you to claim the “priceless” gift of genuine happiness and self-contentment.<\/span><\/p>\n

Reference:<\/span> 4Therapy.com<\/a><\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n