{"id":1807,"date":"2010-07-27T20:12:55","date_gmt":"2010-07-27T20:12:55","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/?page_id=1807"},"modified":"2014-10-07T18:03:00","modified_gmt":"2014-10-07T18:03:00","slug":"relationship-addiction","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/relationship-addiction","title":{"rendered":"Relationship Addiction"},"content":{"rendered":"<div id=\"element3\">\n<div><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">Think you may have developed a love or relationship addiction?<br \/>\n<\/span><\/div>\n<div><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">Are you wondering if it is love or obsession?<br \/>\n<\/span><\/div>\n<div><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">If so, you may be Confusing Love with Obsession<\/span><\/div>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\"><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><br \/>\n<strong>Common Behaviors of People Who Confuse Love With Obsession<\/strong><strong>\u00a0<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">Are you concerned that your attraction to another person has become unhealthy? Do you feel that you have become obsessed with someone or with your relationship? Are the feelings you experience around this person overwhelming?<\/span><\/h3>\n<\/div>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">Here are some common traits &amp; characteristics of relationally dependent people that you can use to gauge your own situation. Because the dynamics of attachment styles are complex, these traits should not be considered as a complete list. Consider each one carefully and decide if this speaks to your situation of someone you care for.<\/span><\/h4>\n<ul>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">You become sexually involved with and\/or emotionally attached to a person without taking the time to get to know them. <\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">You fear abandonment &amp; loneliness, causing you stay in and return to painful, destructive and abusive relationships.<\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">You involve yourself in more than one relationship at a time, both emotionally &amp; sexually. <\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">You confuse love with obsession, using controlling behaviors directed towards your\u00a0partner(s) with the hope of keeping them from leaving you. <\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">You feel empty inside, even while in a relationship, causing you to search for new love interests. <\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">You spend money you don&#8217;t have on a romantic interest, causing you to go into debt.<\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">You use sex &amp; emotional involvement to manipulate and control others.<\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">You become preoccupied with a romantic interest and are unable to concentrate.<\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">You attach yourself to emotionally unavailable people and abusive partners.<\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">You compulsively search for new relationships &#8211; even if you are\u00a0currently in one.<\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">You obsess over, monitor and perhaps stalk\u00a0the object of your affection.<\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<h4><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">You assign unrealistic qualities to those you are attracted to, believing they can bring you happiness and save you from your loneliness.<br \/>\n<\/span><\/h4>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #dece9b;\">If you found yourself nodding your head &#8220;Yes&#8221; while reading these traits &amp; characteristics and feel that they speak to your situation, it may be time to dig a bit deeper, as you may be codependent or relationally addicted. <span style=\"color: #ffcc99;\"><a style=\"color: #ffcc99;\" href=\"http:\/\/www.amazon.com\/gp\/product\/1592853560\/qid=1150241971\/sr=1-7\/ref=sr_1_7\/002-3479263-9225622?s=books&amp;v=glance&amp;n=283155\" target=\"_self\">Confusing Love with Obsession<\/a><\/span>, published by Hazelden, is one of the first books to explore this topic in detail with information for both women and men.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #ffcc99;\"><a class=\"wp-oembed\" style=\"color: #ffcc99;\" title=\"Go to Co-dependency\" href=\"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/?page_id=1816\" target=\"_self\">Co-dependency<\/a><\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #ffcc99;\"><a class=\"wp-oembed\" style=\"color: #ffcc99;\" title=\"Go to Approval Addiction\" href=\"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/?page_id=1822\" target=\"_self\">Approval addiction<\/a><\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #ffcc99;\"><a class=\"wp-oembed\" style=\"color: #ffcc99;\" title=\"Go to Compulsive Lying\" href=\"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/?page_id=1976\" target=\"_self\">Compulsive Lying<\/a><\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #ffcc99;\"><a class=\"wp-oembed\" style=\"color: #ffcc99;\" title=\"Go to Rageaholism page\" href=\"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/?page_id=2156\" target=\"_self\">Rageaholism<\/a><\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #ffcc99;\"><a class=\"wp-oembed\" style=\"color: #ffcc99;\" title=\"Go to Perfectionism\" href=\"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/?page_id=1826\" target=\"_self\">Perfectionism<\/a><\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Think you may have developed a love or relationship addiction? Are you wondering if it is love or obsession? If so, you may be Confusing Love with Obsession \u00a0 Common Behaviors of People Who Confuse Love With Obsession\u00a0 Are you &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/relationship-addiction\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-1807","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1807","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1807"}],"version-history":[{"count":19,"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1807\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":22095,"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/1807\/revisions\/22095"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1807"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}