{"id":12538,"date":"2013-07-13T04:36:36","date_gmt":"2013-07-13T04:36:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/?page_id=12538"},"modified":"2017-06-10T14:32:16","modified_gmt":"2017-06-10T14:32:16","slug":"getting-started","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/getting-started","title":{"rendered":"Getting Started&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/2-131.jpg\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-19755 alignright\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/2-131-300x238.jpg?resize=300%2C238\" alt=\"A metallic chain with an explosed link.\" width=\"300\" height=\"238\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/2-131.jpg?resize=300%2C238&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/2-131.jpg?resize=250%2C199&amp;ssl=1 250w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2013\/04\/2-131.jpg?w=707&amp;ssl=1 707w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>It is often suggested that an addict like me doesn\u2019t love myself. But if I did not love myself I would be indifferent to my own needs\u2026 I wouldn\u2019t care\u2026 I\u2019d be indifferent to pleasure\u2026 I wouldn\u2019t need relief\u2026 I wouldn\u2019t get bored\u2026 and I wouldn\u2019t chase the illusion that I am or need to be in control. The Bible says that I am a sin addict; a slave to selfishness; craving control. I need help to better understand how to love myself. I must accurately see in myself what God sees in me. The Word of God is the prescription lens to see clearly what God wants and has for me through real relationship with me.<\/p>\n<p style=\"padding-left: 30px;\"><span style=\"color: #a3d6ca;\"><span id=\"en-NLT-26381\" class=\"text John-8-34\"><sup class=\"versenum\">\u00a0<\/sup>Jesus replied, <span class=\"woj\">\u201cI tell you the truth, everyone who sins is a slave of sin.<\/span><\/span> <span style=\"color: #50706a;\">John 8:34 (NLT)<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<p>Breaking it all down from the beginning, I suppose the first question to address is, why did God give me into this flawed human experience in the first place? Why am I here? Why didn&#8217;t God simply create me to live in the perfection of heaven from the beginning? If I was asked that question by one of my children, I suppose it might go something like this:<\/p>\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/0j4iMm4yz8I?rel=0\" width=\"420\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>So God created me to live this human experience on planet earth. I wonder what all has to go right for my body to function at all; for my life on earth to even be possible. <a title=\"Open Mind Games (What Gives?), a look at the moral dilemma of Romans 7... doing what I do not want to do, versus the secret of being content from Philippians 4\" href=\"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/admit\/mind-games\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">My problem<\/a> here is that I am not God and am therefore flawed and vulnerable to harm. God has a purpose for my life that when left to figure it out on my own is a mystery to me. What does it all mean as I search for meaning, struggling through the obstacles laid out before me each day?<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_9339\" style=\"width: 310px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><a href=\"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/admit\/i-dont-love-me-yes-you-do-from-sick-love-to-perfect-love\/attachment\/baby-expressions-2\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-9339\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-9339\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-9339\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/confused_baby-2-300x199.jpg?resize=300%2C199\" alt=\"&quot;I was born this way, now what?&quot;\" width=\"300\" height=\"199\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/confused_baby-2.jpg?resize=300%2C199&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-content\/uploads\/2012\/12\/confused_baby-2.jpg?w=425&amp;ssl=1 425w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><p id=\"caption-attachment-9339\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">&#8220;I was born this way, now what&#8217;s the plan?&#8221;<\/p><\/div>\n<p>Is there a plan&#8230; a purpose in this thing called life?<\/p>\n<p>What does it all mean considering the historical events of my life; hoping to live up to each <a title=\"Open Overcome F.E.A.R. (Failed Expectations Affecting Reality) or be Overcome by It, which examines how life experiences distort reality, define meaning about one's self, and shape values and expectations; \" href=\"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/admit\/overcoming-f-e-a-r-failed-expectations-altering-reality\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">expectation<\/a> of me? What does it all mean in the face of the lies I have come to believe about myself and my place in the world? How has struggling to live up to standards I cannot possibly live up to worked for me so far? How do my feelings about life experiences affect the neurological reality of <a title=\"Open Brain Problem\" href=\"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/brain-problem\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">how my brain works<\/a>, impacting the lifestyle choices I make going forward?<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #d1d694;\"><em>&#8220;Steven&#8230; It is right on. You did a lot of work and your study was directed by God\u2019s eternal truth from the Bible.&#8221;<\/em> &#8212;Randal Ross, Calvary Church, Chicago, IL <\/span><\/p>\n<p>&gt;&gt;&gt; <a title=\"Open ADMIT: Identify and Understand the Problem\" href=\"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/step-1-admit-my-life-is-out-of-control\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><span style=\"font-size: 18px; line-height: 20px; text-decoration: underline;\">Click here to open ADMIT page.<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It is often suggested that an addict like me doesn\u2019t love myself. But if I did not love myself I would be indifferent to my own needs\u2026 I wouldn\u2019t care\u2026 I\u2019d be indifferent to pleasure\u2026 I wouldn\u2019t need relief\u2026 I &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/getting-started\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","template":"","meta":{"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-12538","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry"],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/12538","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/page"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12538"}],"version-history":[{"count":16,"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/12538\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":38233,"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/pages\/12538\/revisions\/38233"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/wp3\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12538"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}