Addicted to Me

by Steven Gledhill for FREEdom from MEdom Project

“I was so obsessed with me and the reasons that I might be dissatisfied that I couldn’t focus on other people… What I trace this to is a certain selfishness on my part.” —Barack Obama

What is it about our painful discomfort that impacts our lives so profoundly? Where does it come from? Why can’t we just deal with it rationally? Why can’t we control it? What does it mean to have control, and why do we place such a premium on it? We need control to best ensure our comfort, or at the very least to minimize our discomfort from being dissatisfied. We have an innate need and desire to be comfortable.

“When we are no longer able to change a situation we are challenged to change ourselves.”
—Viktor E. Frankl, Renowned Austrian Psychiatrist

What will it take to consider that our ways for trying to figure out our reasons for dissatisfaction are not working? When will we recognize that we are slaves to that which dissatisfies? What will it take before we consider the teachings of Jesus Christ that promises to set us free from our dissatisfaction?

“I can to some extent control my acts. I have no direct control over my temperament. If what we are matters even more than what we do—if indeed if what we do matters chiefly as evidence of what we are—then it follows that the change which I most need to undergo is a change that my own direct, voluntary efforts cannot bring about.” —CS Lewis, Mere Christianity

“Jesus said to the people who believed in him, “You are truly my disciples if you remain faithful to my teachings. And you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. But we are descendants of Abraham,” they said. “We have never been slaves to anyone. What do you mean, ‘You will be set free’?” Jesus replied, “I tell you the truth, everyone who sins is a slave of sin.” John 8:33-34 (NLT)

Sin is the Bible’s three-letter word to describe our obsession with our self. We are born into the world selfish. Self-centered sin is the primary reason for our dissatisfaction. It’s center stage. It governs how we think, how we feel, what we choose to believe in, and how we choose to behave. The sensibly realistic consequence of S.I.N. is Self-Inflicted N-sanity.

Sin is impulsive, compulsive, and chronic. It is persistent, unrelenting, and constant to our experience. Sin is progressive, meaning that it gets worse. As our thinking becomes more distorted by sin, we feel more and more dissatisfaction and discontentment, and we’re increasingly wrought with discomfort. We continue to sin and are impaired in our ability to demonstrate self-control. Whatever the issue of sin is, we develop tolerance to its effects and strive all the more to resolve our discomfort. We develop a preoccupation with our dissatisfaction and lose our focus. We continue in our sin, even though we are adversely affected by it.

At the core of our obsession with self is a belief of entitlement. I want something, then perceive that I need the thing that I want, then proceed to do what I have to do to get it… and continue to do what I have to do to keep it, and to do what I have to do to get more of it. If I want to feel something (i.e., pleasure, happy) I will do what I have to do. It is the same for eliminating the thing from my life that I do not want. I will do what I have to do. If I don’t want to feel something (i.e., pain, sad) I will do what I have to do. It’s what we do. We can’t help ourselves.

When we understand how the brain works—that there is a relationship between the ‘go’ centers of the brain and the cautionary, judgment centers of the brain, and that the ‘go’ systems are way more powerful than the judgment centers, which by the way are also governed by obsession with self—we can recognize the sensibility—the reality—of selfish sin. This relationship between these functions of the brain shape our values and direct our moral compass, the so-called inner voice.

Our inner voice, what you might say is the inner spirit or conscience of a person, is guided by the matter of selfish sin until we choose to surrender our desires, intentions, ambitions, and motivations over to the care of God. Until then, we are usually deceived by our own inner voice. It’s often said that on one shoulder is an angel and on the other is a devil, and there is this conflict inside of our heads between right and wrong, good and bad (evil). It’s said that we need to listen real closely to the angel so that we can make the good and right choices. The problem we have is that the “angel” inside of our head is also selfish. The other problem is that there is a real devil directing evil that the Bible says, “disguises himself as an angel of light” (2 Corinthians 11:14). So you look to the right and there sits your trusty angel inner voice, and you in your selfishness inquires as to what it might be saying. Then you look to the left and… “WHAT?” Another angel? Which is which? How do you know which inner voice to listen to?

This is our dilemma with selfishness. Selfishness can help to protect us, even at times for the right reasons. But our selfishness is flawed and prone to repeated mistakes; mistakes driven by ambition and jealousy, resentment and vengeance, shame and fear, betrayal and abandonment. Because of the erroneous automatic thinking patterns of the brain, under the direction and vision of our core belief of entitlement, we our powerless to correct its course. We are absent of control, unable to fix ourselves or anyone else for that matter, and in need of help.

We are in fact obsessed with ourselves, and are thereby enslaved by sin. We are sin addicts. This is not merely my opinion. President Barack Obama, speaking of moral failure said, “What I trace this to is a certain selfishness on my part… I was so obsessed with me and the reasons that I might be dissatisfied that I couldn’t focus on other people…When I find myself taking the wrong step, a lot of the times it’s because I’m trying to protect myself instead of trying to do God’s work.”

Jesus said it.

“I tell you the truth, everyone who sins is a slave of sin.” John 8:34

And Peter, a disciple of Jesus, said,

They themselves are slaves of destructive habits. For a man is a slave of anything that has conquered him. 2 Peter 2:19 (NKJV)

For every slave there is a master. To be a slave of sin is to be mastered, or controlled by sin. We are in fact addicted to sin. We’re all sin addicts. Sinful thoughts are addictive and destructive, yet we continue the pattern of sinful thinking. Sinful feelings are addictive and destructive, yet we allow ourselves to be controlled by sinful feelings. Sinful behavior is the result of sinful thoughts and feelings, yet we allow our thoughts and feelings to control our behavior. My obsession with me owns me and is at the wheel of what I think, how I feel, and how I behave.

Jesus Christ called us slaves to sin. A slave is submissive to the authority of its master. In every relationship, the power belongs to the least interested party. The one in the relationship that cares even a little bit less has the power and leverage in the relationship. Sin could care less in its relationship with us. It seeks to kill and destroy us. The Bible says that we sin by nature (Romans 2:14). It is in our character—our make up—to sin. Jesus is essentially telling us that we are powerless, compelled by our selfish sin nature to do what is wrong and harmful to ourselves and others, even when we want to do right and good. How sick is that? It is the disease of sin addiction rendering us powerless to simply fix it.

Paul goes on to write that the problem is that “sin dwells” in our human condition. Sin is alive in us (Romans 6:17). Synonyms for ‘sin’ include ‘wrong-doing’, ‘offend’, ‘indulge’ and ‘fail’. That sin dwells in us is to say that it inhabits us, and is alive in our minds, our thoughts and our behavior. Paul is presuming that his and our problem is spiritual, alive and controlling us from within. Paul elaborates on this truth, writing:

“Now if I do what I intend in my will not to do, it is no longer I who does it, but sin that dwells in me.” Romans 7:20 (NKJV)

Our desire, remember is to achieve satisfaction or, at the very least, minimize dissatisfaction through short-lived gratification. Once we deviated from God’s plan for how to be satisfied and fulfilled, we were drawn away by our desire to reverse our ongoing dissatisfaction. Enticed by the problem of dissatisfaction, having become obsessed with it, we turned inward to ourselves to solve this problem. Seemingly unattainable satisfaction gave way to instant (yet temporary) gratification.

In the clinical arena, there is cognitive recognition of something that happened that evoked thought interpreting the meaningfulness of the event. These thoughts feed into a belief about the event, which fuel feelings that drive choices and behavior in response to the event. Behavior then renders an outcome, good or bad (positive or negative). Since the GO system of the brain is selfish, typically overpowering the STOP system of the brain, also motivated by self-interested protective intentions, behavior will ultimately lead to our doom. The therapeutic intervention for this problem is referred to as cognitive behavioral therapy—CBT. Some two thousand years prior to CBT was written a therapeutic spiritual intervention called a relationship with Jesus Christ with a strategy for a new life experience into realized freedom.

Let’s examine how Scripture deals with the problem in a similar fashion to the manner in which clinical minds have examined the human condition. Except, like I said, Scripture had a two thousand year head start.

Each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death. James 1:14-15 (NKJV)

Drawn away by unsatisfied desire, having interpreted events in our experience, we’ve lost our focus; we’ve lost our way. We believe we can somehow achieve satisfaction in our own way, and will act on our feelings accordingly. We have journeyed onto a path that leads us away from God. The outcome of our independence from God is our inevitable destruction. Since satisfaction can only be achieved in perfection, and we are in fact imperfect, we remain dissatisfied. We must then protect ourselves from the imperfect disappointment and consequence as the inevitable result of sin.

Paul, a godly man intending to do the will of God, writes…

“For what I am doing I don’t understand. What I will to do, I do not practice; but what I hate, that I do. But now it is no longer I that do it, but the sin that dwells in me. For I know that in me nothing good dwells; for to will is present with me, but how to practice what is good I do not find. For the good I will to do, I do not do, but the evil I will (intend) not to do, that I practice. Now if I do what I will not to do, it is no longer I who do it, but the sin that dwells in me.” Romans 7:15-20 (NKJV)

Ambivalence is wanting things equally that are in direct opposition to each other. It is having the same motivation to pursue things that means to have the one thing means losing the other thing. Game shows and reality shows on television always involve risk. The contestant has won enough money to be comfortable for a long time, but can risk it for more money to be comfortable for life. Even though the odds are stacked against the contestant winning the jackpot, he considers risking everything he has already won to win it all. He has to weigh what he has to gain against what he has to lose. This is ambivalence. Those who are thinking about cheating on a test or on their spouse wrestle in much the same way. Cheating spouses will put their marriages and families on the line for temporary self gratification.

Giving in to ambivalence means the risk of losing everything for a shortcut to perceived happiness. The same can be said for risking the provision, peace and joy that comes from a life surrendered to God’s will versus those fleeting moments of indulgent self-gratification. Ambivalence is resistance to recovery from selfish sin God’s way. It will go a long way toward fueling the belief of entitlement at the core of it all.

The difference between gratification and satisfaction may appear to be subtle, but there is a clear distinction. Gratification is the feeling that comes while receiving something; has an ambitious quality to it, and is often short-lived. Satisfaction is derived from healthy give and take, and has a gracious loving quality to it. There is no jealousy or resentment in true satisfied contentment. Ingredients of satisfaction include mercy, peace, and joy. There is often pain and suffering involved, perhaps even death of some kind, leading to the recovery of something that was lost and is then found; something that was broken is then restored. There is reconciliation and even a kind of resurrection, transformation, rebirth, or renewal.

Our minds, however, are not easily interested in the attainment, or pursuit, of satisfied contentment. Rather, we tend to settle for gratification for the “15 minutes” of it that we get to enjoy. Then, it is back to the grind of our perpetual struggle to find what we think that we want and need, searching desperately for another glimpse of heaven in our day-to-day life, which when we see it, is usually a counterfeit; a picture painted by selfish desire (and influenced by evil disguised as something positive) of how good our life can look when we do things motivated by selfish ambition.

For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind. James 3:16 (NLT)

Apostle Paul understood this problem. Even those of us trying to be godly in relationship with God, struggle everyday when we buy into the lies of our selfishly ambitious motivations. He speaks in Romans of our intention to do that which is right and appropriate in the sight of God. The problem is that each of us has this addictive sin nature. Even the Apostle Paul, someone who encountered the risen Christ, someone who owed Jesus his life after persecuting God’s people, someone who suffered a great deal for the sake of the gospel, someone who wrote scripture after turning his life over to God, struggled with the ambivalence because of his addiction to sin. Paul loved Jesus. He fully comprehended that to surrender to the will of God meant putting an end to his constant struggle with inevitable failure and eminent destruction as the consequence of indulgent sin. Paul had experienced so much peace and fulfillment in his life surrendered to God, yet had times when he gave in to his selfish desires that resulted in bad choices with destructive consequences. We can love Jesus and yet still we sin.

Paul wrote that even though he intends to do what is right, he continues to blow it. He suggests that this issue of self-obsession resulting in addiction to sin is sick. He suggests that the addiction to sin is so strong that we are powerless against the control of sin dwelling in us provoking us. This begs the question, “I thought Jesus said if we follow his teachings we are indeed free?”

Jesus referred to sin as sickness and referred to himself as a physician for those who are sick. He came for sick sinners in need of a physician.

“Those who are well have no need for a physician, but those who are sick have need; for I did not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.” Matthew 9:12-13 (NKJV)

The point is this, though we are sick with the disease of sin and cannot heal ourselves; there is one in Jesus Christ with power and authority over the sin disease. As we are forgiven of our sin, the Bible says we are healed of its consequences. The law of sin can no longer defeat us. We will still experience its effects as long as we’re on planet earth—life happens—but we are no longer owned by the will of sin. We may not always feel free, but we are free from the eternal consequences of sin when we are submitted to the will and care of God.

The prayer of faith will save the sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven.
James 5:15 (NKJV)

Turn away from the selfishness that comes natural to you and turn toward the one that can take you way beyond settling for the short-lived gratification that has a whole lot of pain attached to it, into a place of satisfied contentment, where you can know by experience mercy, peace, joy and freedom from generous beautiful God who loves you and wants to fellowship with you in relationship with the Sympathetic Savior, Jesus Christ.

Are You Under the Influence?

by Steven Gledhill for FREEdom from MEdom Project…

I can to some extent control my acts. I have no direct control over my temperament. If what we are matters even more than what we do—if indeed if what we do matters chiefly as evidence of what we are—then it follows that the change which I most need to undergo is a change that my own direct, voluntary efforts cannot bring about. —C.S. Lewis

The Bible tells us that there are two influential forces at work in the lives of us humans. There is the flesh, and then there is the Spirit. The flesh is our human nature under the controlling influence of human desire. The Spirit is the Spirit of God, under whose authority we are all subject. God created you and me as human beings with human desire. God did not intend for human desire to be impure and corrupt. However, since we are created with free will, and considering that we are not God, we are vulnerable to temptation in our flesh, and will give in to temptation and fall prey to sin. That, my friends, is a fact. Another fact is that our sin will kill and destroy us.

So God, in His infinite wisdom and compassionate grace, from the beginning has given us the way out through a relationship with His Son, Jesus Christ. Jesus said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life…” When under the controlling influence of the Spirit of Christ, we are able to access the power of God in our life in such a way as to be completely transformed into someone that willingly chooses to love God and serve Him. Under the influence of the Spirit of Christ we have been blessed immeasurably. So then, why don’t we live in the experience of immeasurable blessing , transcendent peace, and unspeakable joy—joy so amazing one cannot put it into words?

Even the Apostle Paul identified with this dilemma. He said on the one hand that he had learned the secret of being content (Philippians 4), while having discovered the principle of this life that he was miserable under the control of sin, stating that he was a slave to sin (Romans 7). Paul would go on to say that it is God’s grace that is sufficient in his weakness (2 Corinthians 12). He wrote quite a bit about the battle between flesh and Spirit (Romans 8). The ‘S’ in the word Spirit is capitalized since it refers to the Spirit of God in the person of Jesus Christ. The human spirit is still flesh consisting of both the strongest of desire and the full weight of its conscience. The frontal regions of the human brain that affects judgment and caution can be easily overrun by the influence of human desire and motivation. That is why Paul wrote that he tends to do what he does not want to do, and does not do the thing he wants to do. In other words, when as a servant of the Lord, he wants to do good and right, he inevitably does what is bad and wrong.

There is an Oprah Winfrey episode from 2005 with actress Tracy Gold. Tracy had been drinking at a barbeque with friends. When it was time to go, the decision had been made that Tracy would drive her husband and three sons home since her husband was too drunk to drive. At about the 20-minute mark on the ride home, Tracy lost control of the vehicle and it rolled several times down the embankment of the highway. The baby in the carseat was unhurt. Another son, had cuts and bruises. Her oldest son, sitting in the back of their SUV, was thrown from the vehicle and suffered a broken collarbone. Her drunken husband broke his neck. An officer was quoted as saying, “It was a horrific accident; it’s lucky no one was killed.”

It turns out that Tracy Gold’s Blood Alcohol Content was twice the legal limit in the State of California. She’d been drinking here and there for five hours and still had at least four drinks in her system at the time of the accident. Tracy said to Oprah (paraphrasing), “You always say to listen to your inner voice. I obviously was impaired. I don’t drink and drive. Had I listened to my inner voice I would not have drove that night.”

I contend that Tracy Gold did listen to her inner voice. There lies the problem. Tracy said that she does not drink and drive. She knew she was impaired. Intellectually, she knew not to drive. In her conscience she knew not to drive. However, it was her deepest desire that ultimately had the greatest influence over her decision to drive even though it’s safe to say she had at least 8-10 drinks that night (she’d likely metabolized five by the time she had tested positive for alcohol). She knew not to drink and drive, yet she risked the lives of her husband and children as she rolled her vehicle down a hill. It was her inner voice—her self-centered ‘me’dom desire that insisted that it would be too much of an inconvenience to find another option to get home that night. It would be embarrassing to her and to her children to have a cab roll up after the party. It would be a hassle to go back to get the vehicle the next day.

Tracy Gold was under the influence of alcohol, but even more than that, she was under the influence of her own self-centered desires and motives. The point here is that we must understand that our inner voice is selfishly corrupt wanting what we do not have and wanting more of what we do have. Under its influence we continually give in to its power. Look at what James writes about it.

“For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind.” James 3:16

We are under the controlling influence of our inner voice. Our inner voice is not only selfish, it’s ruthless. The saying that we hurt the ones we love the most is true. Tracy Gold and her husband risked their children’s lives that night. Alcoholics and drug addicts will sacrifice their families to get high. Adulterers will risk their marriages and families to get the high of immediate sexual gratification. Spouses will yell and abuse one another, even in front of their children to get that high of immediate gratification that comes from raising one’s voice (increased dopamine and serotonin levels). As families, we argue and fight with each other until we get what we want. Our inner voice convinces us that we can and will get what we want if we fight hard enough for it. When as a parent you try to tell your child, “You think that is what you want (immediate but small picture) but that’s not really what you want (big picture),” you are trying to persuade your child that what they think they want is the lie told to them by their inner voice. Later on down the road, when the child sees life more clearly having experienced bumps in the road—sometimes severe and brutal; they will realize that what they thought they wanted they never wanted, really, now that they know what they know now. But until our kids see things more clearly, instead of listening to you, your kids will heed the passion of their inner desires and leadings of their inner voice, make foolish decisions, and pay the price.

“What is causing the quarrels and fights among you? Don’t they come from the evil desires at war within you? You want what you don’t have, so you scheme and kill to get it. You are jealous of what others have, but you can’t get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them. Yet you don’t have what you want because you don’t ask God for it. And even when you ask, you don’t get it because your motives are all wrong—you want only what will give you pleasure.” James 4:1-3

This truth was articulted so well by Pastor Fran Leeman (LifeSpring Community Church, Plainfield, IL) when he spoke of how, when we pray, we tend to think we know what we want and pray to be blessed according to what we want. The best of God’s blessing in our lives comes from when we come to completely trust Him and seek to be blessed as He sees fit for us. What do you believe about God—really believe about God? Do you pray, asking God to bless you with everything He wants and has for you, according to His purposeful plan for you?

Or do you think that the Scripture says in vain, “The Spirit who dwells in us yearns jealously”? But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: “ God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble.” James 4:5

There are differences in how this Scripture is translated. I chose the New King James Translation since it makes my point. It is obvious that the human spirit, or inner voice, is full of envy and lust and by nature is in conflict with its maker. If, when considering the NKJV translation, we are able to comprehend, to the extent that we can, that the Spirit of Christ alive in us “yearns jealously” for you and for me to be in the kind of relationship with Him that we submit ourselves under the influence of His authority, He can and will bless us immeasurably. You parents out there yearn jealously for your children. You yearn for your kids to heed your teachings and to do and be what proves to be provident and prosperous long-term in the big picture. We need to let God be at work in transforming our inner voice by rearranging how are brains work (Romans 12:1-2). God promises to take us where only He can, beyond even our wildest imagination. If only we would trust God and the leading of His voice, instead of being led by the nose listening to our inner voice speaking on behalf of our lustful, greedy, covetous, and even vengeful passions and desires.

The kind of transformative work that God wants to do in our life is beyond what we would even think to want or ask for. Even when God helps us out of difficulty and pain He wants to do in us so much more, for our benefit. I have included here a passage from C.S. Lewis, from his book “Mere Christianity”. Let the revelation and power within this passage sink in and resonate with you as he elaborates on Christ’s words when He said, “Be ye perfect”.

Some people tend to think this means, “Unless you are perfect, I will not help you”; and as we cannot be perfect, then, if He meant that, our position is hopeless. But I do not think he did mean that. I think He meant, “The only help I give is help to become perfect. You may want less, but I will give you nothing less.” Let me explain. When I was a child I often had a toothache, and I knew if I went to my mother she would give me something which would deaden the pain for that night and let me get to sleep. But I did not go to my mother—at least not until the pain became very bad. And the reason I did not go was this: I did not doubt that she would give the aspirin; but I knew she would also do something else. I knew she would make me go to the dentist the next morning. I could get what I wanted out of her without getting something more, which I did not want. I wanted immediate relief from pain, but I could not get it without having my teeth set permanently right. And I knew those dentists. I knew they started fiddling about with all sorts of other teeth which had not yet begun to ache.

When you live under the influence of Jesus Christ in your life He is like the dentist. When you are submitted to the transformed life under His influence, God will go beyond the place in your life that aches. He will “fiddle about with all sorts of other teeth” because He knows that these are places that need His touch or they will become even more infected until you cannot move because of the pain and difficulty. What God does is take the things that are old and dying, and transforms them into something new and full of life, beyond what you even know to want for yourself.

C.S. Lewis (“Mere Christianity”) borrows a parable from author, George McDonald, and wrote the following:

Imagine yourself as a living house. God comes in to rebuild that house. At first, perhaps, you can understand what He is doing. He is getting the drains right and stopping the leaks in the roof and so on. You knew these jobs needed doing and so you are not surprised. But presently He starts knocking the house about in a way that hurts abominably and does not seem to make sense. What on earth is He up to? The explanation is that He is building quite a different house from the one you thought of—throwing out a new wing here, running up towers, making courtyards. You thought you were going to be made into a decent little cottage; but He is building a palace. He intends to come in and live in it Himself.

The command “Be ye perfect” is not idealistic gas. Nor is it a command to do something impossible. He is going to make us into creatures that can obey that command… If we let Him—for we can prevent Him, if we choose—He will make the feeblest and filthiest of us into a dazzling, radiant, immortal creature, pulsating all through with such energy and joy and wisdom and love as we cannot now imagine, a bright stainless mirror which reflects back to God perfectly His own boundless power and delight and goodness. The process will be long and in parts very painful, but that is what we are in for. Nothing less. He meant what He said.

I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God. Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen. Ephesians 3:16-21

When the day comes that you and I actually get this, there is no telling the extent to which we can experience God’s full blessing personally, in our families, churches, communities, and nations. This is the essence of ‘me’dom recovery and to truly experience freedom. Do you know God today—I mean, really know Him? As we let go of what we cannot control (Admit), come to fully know God (Believe), and submit to the controlling influence of His Spirit (Commit), we will be transformed and renewed; re-energized in the experience of His immeasurable blessing, transcendent peace, and unspeakable joy.

Take a few minutes and pray that God reveals to you the truth of what you have just read, and that He empowers you to let go, believing that you can make it, with the courage to do what He communicates to your will to do.

Work out your own salvation (recovery) with fear and trembling; for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure. Philippians 2:12b-13 (NKJV)

Scratch the Itch

by Steven Gledhill for FREEdom from MEdom Project

We live in a social culture that promotes the “It’s all about me” ideal. The fact is that it has been all about me and all about you since Adam and Eve. Their sense of feeling dissatisfied led to their self-centeredness. The Bible’s three letter word for self-centered ambition is sin. The Bible instructs that we are born into a culture of sin. In other words, we are born into a world subject to the law of sin and with an inherited predisposition to sin dating all the way back to Adam and Eve. The Bible also teaches us that we sin when we have knowledge of our sin—essentially coming into awareness of right and wrong, good and bad, moral and immoral. The Apostle Paul uses the parallel of the law, the commandments to Moses, as a barometer by which to gauge our knowledge of sin.

Therefore by the deeds of the law no flesh will be justified in God’s sight, for by the law is the knowledge of sin. Romans 3:20 (NKJV)

He writes that this law is a good thing since it helps us to know the difference between right and wrong. But then Paul makes the point that the more we know the difference between right and wrong, good and bad, the more aware we become of how much more we are choosing wrongly and behaving badly.

But sin, even the appearance of sin, was producing death in me through what is good, so sin through the commandment might become exceedingly sinful. Romans 7:13 (NKJV)

This makes sense. We learned the law of sin when Adam consumed knowledge in the Garden of Eden. Paul also said in Romans chapter seven, “For sin seizing the opportunity by the commandment—which was to bring life, deceived me, and by it killed me.” The commandment originally was access to of all the fruit—meaning to enjoy all of God’s provision and blessing, do not eat of the tree of knowledge of good and evil. God allowed Adam and Eve to possess and eat of all of the fruit in the garden, giving Adam and Eve total access to possess everything that was his,but but to eat of the tree of knowledge was certain death. They had it all and then wanted the one thing they could not have. God has given us so much in this life, yet like Adam and Eve, we so often choose that which is unhealthy and destructive. We’ve even been warned of the danger and risk of unhealthy lifestyle choices, and yet we pursue risky and dangerous lifestyle activities anyway. When we learn what hurts, why do we still do it?

It is this lack of or absence of control in our core discontentment and dissatisfaction that leads to our shift in focus. Adam and Eve were focused on the work of God in the world until they became aware of their discontentment that rendered them dissatisfied with what they were, what they had, and what they were doing. Their purpose radically changed from living to please God to protecting their own interests and satisfying themselves. The problem was that, according to this principle of scratching their itch, they would grow increasingly dissatisfied, always more and more itchy.

Scratching our itch is our obsession as human beings. As long as we’re dissatisfied we’ll itch. As long as we itch we’ll scratch. Perhaps President Barack Obama said it best when asked about his greatest moral failure at the Saddleback Presidential Forum, August 16, 2008.

“What I trace this to is selfishness on my part… I was so obsessed with me and the reasons that I might be dissatisfied that I couldn’t focus on other people… When I find myself taking the wrong step, I think a lot of the times it’s because I’m trying to protect myself instead of trying to do God’s work.” 

Our obsession with ourselves is indeed our primary addiction. What we will discover is that, like Adam and Eve, the more we pursue control according to our understanding of what we need to be comfortable, the less we depend on God, and the less we are committed to doing his will in our life, therefore creating greater separation from God. We will discover that the less we live our life God’s way and endeavor to living life our own way, the more we learn one way or another that our way does not work.

It is insufficient and impractical to live according to our own set of expectations, values and standards of morality. Our morals and values are tainted. They are flawed because they are shaped by so many other people throughout our maturation process and social culture whose own morality and value standards are tainted and flawed. This sequence is bent on its own destruction, yet it goes on. In our search for pleasure, and in time, relief from the discomfort of unmet expectations, we tend to continue in destructive patterns of behavior. We become consumed with somehow getting things under control. The net result is the increased severity of our illness from addictive patterns of behavior and the resulting chaos. Our chaos and conflict becomes amplified and we become sicker because our efforts to fix things continue to be infected by sin.

The core issue of sin is its addictive quality. It takes over as it becomes full-grown and we become slaves to it. Eventually circumstances are impacted enough that we experience increasing discomfort in our dissatisfaction. We hurt badly enough to either pursue help or begin to lose one thing after another that is important to us. Unless we seek help to recover from our problem, we invariably experience loss.

Each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin when it is full grown, brings forth death. James 1:14-15 (NKJV)

What about this problem of sin? What is it to continually and habitually choose a thing or a behavior that inevitably leads to greater discomfort, loss, destruction, and ultimately death? The clinical world refers compulsive lifestyle patterns of behavior as addiction. We are obsessed with what dissatisfies in order to achieve satisfaction and overcome discomfort. It is the driving force that distracts us from focusing on the person who has the ability and the resources to change everything that detracts us from what is truly fulfilling. I’ll say it again: I am addicted to me, and you are addicted to you.

by Steven Gledhill for FREEdom from MEdom Project

Addiction is our repetitive surrender to habitual patterns of behavior that render us defective in the very core of our being. Our brains get reprogrammed to the point that the slightest stimulation leads to compulsive thought and feelings that drive our behavior. This is the harsh reality of the problem of addiction. Let’s do the math. If addiction is the result of surrendering to that which is physically, cognitively, behaviorally and spiritually unhealthy, then the solution to the problem of addiction is surrendering to that which is physically, cognitively, behaviorally and spiritually healthy. Since addiction is at its root the surrender to that which is ungodly, then recovery from addiction must be the surrender to that which is godly. Therefore, addiction is a spiritual problem desperately in need of a spiritual solution.

A Man After God’s Own Heart: David’s Story of Addiction, Repentance, Redemption & Restoration

by Steven Gledhill for FREEdom from MEdom Project

“It’s long, but it’s worth the read to the one who will take the time. It is admirable that you took on David’s sexual addiction head-on, whereas most Bible scholars seem to treat the polygamy of the monarchy as a sort of sexual “grace period” in the otherwise monogamous command of God.” —Pastor Fran Leeman, Chicago (Plainfield), Ilinois

The LORD has sought out a man after his own heart and appointed him ruler of his people. 1 Samuel 13:14

After removing Saul, he made David their king. God testified concerning him: ‘I have found David son of Jesse, a man after my own heart; he will do everything I want him to do.’ Acts 13:22

Like anyone else, King David of the Bible suffered from a cunning, baffling disease known as addiction—addiction to self. Borne out of addiction to self comes all other symptoms of addiction. David strayed from the truth of what he understood intellectually to be good and right according to the will of God. Lost was the innocence of the young warrior who killed a lion to protect his sheep, and took down a giant of a man to defend a nation. Even with the anointing and power and all of the blessing bestowed on him by his Heavenly Father, David grew in pride and selfish ambition, overrun by his sin nature, rooted in a core belief of entitlement in his flesh. David would have to submit one day at a time, even one moment at a time to the will of his Lord or David would succumb to the unimaginable temptation that would avail itself to him as the King of all Israel.

Consider the “drugs” of temptation that David had to choose from as both a king, and as a human being: sexual temptation; every form of lust, power, and greed; money and possessions; alcohol and “herbs”; anger, rage, resentment, and revenge; lying and deceit; self-preservation at all cost (even if it meant murder to protect his reputation); issues of codependency; and the list goes on. The difference for David that you and I cannot relate to is that unless he was surrendered to the will and care of God moment by moment there was no one else to tell him “no” or “stop” or “wait”. He had advisers in his ear constantly but David was the man in charge and too often ignored sound counsel.

The truth is that no matter who you are, if you are living outside of God’s perfect will and plan, then you are living according to your own desires and intentions driven by a systemic pattern of brain activity that wants what it wants when it wants it. It’s not that the self-centered brain is some monster come alive in you to do its bidding; but I suppose it’s something like that. The Apostle Paul wrote from a deeply sincere heart when he said (I’m paraphrasing Romans 7 stuff), “What I do and don’t do often goes against my God-driven conscience and I am ashamed of myself. It’s as though I’m not even the one doing it but it’s the sin in me controlling my mind and behavior. I am a slave to this thing alive in me. I am sick in it and I am sick about it.” When we put our faith in ourselves, even as we claim to put our faith in Christ, we think ambitiously, feel protective of ourselves, and behave badly and foolish. 

The primary focus of this writing is not to villianize or stigmatize King David as a sex addict but rather bring attention to the reality that deviant selfish sin is a cunning and powerful weapon against even the best of people; even “a man after God’s own heart.” People can love God deeply and intensely, yet still struggle with the addiction to self—MEdom. People can have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, according to His merciful grace, and struggle with addiction to lust, greed, and sexual sin. The key to recovery empowered by the Spirit of God happens one day at a time committed to faith-driven principles: Admit the sin by confession; Believe in the truth of redemption by a Sympathetic Savior with complete authority; and, Commit to a lifestyle of repentant recovery by turning everything over in submission to the One in authority according to that belief.

The Story Inside the Story

“How could one who was known for his devotion to God fall so horribly? What were the steps that led to his demise? David’s steps to losing his first love were subtle; but very real. When David sat on his rooftop watching Bathsheba bathe on that fateful night, he was not walking with the Lord as he once had… At this particular point in his life, we don’t read of him worshipping or singing love songs to God. David was spiritually idle.” —Pastor Greg Laurie, Harvest Ministries

The Faithful Young Man of Valor

Early on in his life, David was the boy, and then the young man, that was too good of a kid to be brassy enough to someday be king. David was one of those kids you kind of hope never grows up. He was innocent and you didn’t want growing up to ruin that. He was compassionate, and the Bible called him good looking. The King James translation suggests David had a “beautiful countenance”, likely a reflection of a good-natured heart (disposition). David was a skilled musician. He had a way about him. He was also courageous and strongly determined when he put his mind to something. He was also skilled at tending sheep. He was the kind of teenager, then young adult, who had that moxy, that special something that you can’t quite put your finger on exactly what it is but you know when someone’s got it. That was David.

One of the servants said to Saul, “One of Jesse’s sons from Bethlehem is a talented harp player. Not only that, he is a brave warrior, a man of war, and has good judgment. He is also a fine-looking young man, and the Lord is with him.”
1 Samuel 16:18 (NLT)

At a young age, David was one that worshipped God. He loved God and played his instrument to the glory of God. When Samuel (the last of the judges) was led by the Spirit of God to Jesse of Bethlehem to identify and anoint the next king of Israel, well, here’s the story…

4 So Samuel did as the Lord instructed. When he arrived at Bethlehem, the elders of the town came trembling to meet him. “What’s wrong?” they asked. “Do you come in peace?”

5 “Yes,” Samuel replied. “I have come to sacrifice to the Lord. Purify yourselves and come with me to the sacrifice.” Then Samuel performed the purification rite for Jesse and his sons and invited them to the sacrifice, too.

6 When they arrived, Samuel took one look at Eliab and thought, “Surely this is the Lord’s anointed!”

7 But the Lord said to Samuel, “Don’t judge by his appearance or height, for I have rejected him. The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”

8 Then Jesse told his son Abinadab to step forward and walk in front of Samuel. But Samuel said, “This is not the one the Lord has chosen.” 9 Next Jesse summoned Shimea, but Samuel said, “Neither is this the one the Lord has chosen.” 10 In the same way all seven of Jesse’s sons were presented to Samuel. But Samuel said to Jesse, “The Lord has not chosen any of these.” 11 Then Samuel asked, “Are these all the sons you have?”

“There is still the youngest,” Jesse replied. “But he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.”

“Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.”

12 So Jesse sent for him. He was dark and handsome, with beautiful eyes.

And the Lord said, “This is the one; anoint him.”

13 So as David stood there among his brothers, Samuel took the flask of olive oil he had brought and anointed David with the oil. And the Spirit of the Lord came powerfully upon David from that day on. 1 Samuel 16:4-13 (NLT)

David was the youngest of Jesse’s sons and seemed very comfortable as the shepherd of sheep that also seemed to enjoy adventure from time to time. The Scriptures tell us that David killed vicious wild animals to protect his flock of sheep. He was a compassionate kid that was growing up. By the time he was in his mid to late teens, David was anointed the next king of Israel who would then be the one who would be the musician with the charge to console the down-trodden king he would replace.

Then came the signature event in the life of a young man that would prove he was indeed the man. David would be respected and recognized as a fearless leader. Stepping into the on deck circle would catch the real men of war by surprise. Even his older brothers didn’t think David should even be at the end of the bench in the dugout.

Now Eliab his oldest brother heard when he spoke to the men; and Eliab’s anger was aroused against David, and he said, “Why did you come down here? And with whom have you left those few sheep in the wilderness? I know your pride and the insolence of your heart, for you have come down to see the battle.” And David said, “What have I done now? Is there not a cause?” 30 Then he turned from him toward another and said the same thing; and these people answered him as the first ones did. Now when the words which David spoke were heard, they reported them to Saul; and he sent for him. Then David said to Saul, “Let no man’s heart fail because of him; your servant will go and fight with this Philistine.” 1 Samuel 17:28-32 (NKJV)

The rest is history; a phenomenal feet. David would trash talk the giant Philistine soldier and then back up every word with action.

Then David said to the Philistine, “You come to me with a sword, with a spear, and with a javelin. But I come to you in the name of the Lord of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. 46 This day the Lord will deliver you into my hand, and I will strike you and take your head from you. And this day I will give the carcasses of the camp of the Philistines to the birds of the air and the wild beasts of the earth, that all the earth may know that there is a God in Israel. Then all this assembly shall know that the Lord does not save with sword and spear; for the battle is the Lord’s, and He will give you into our hands.” 1 Samuel 17:45-47 (NKJV)

The only thing David cared about was bringing glory to his Lord, the great God of Israel that would go before David and the army standing behind David, leading them to victory.

It is interesting to me that King Saul put the fate of a nation into the hands of this spunky good-looking teenager. Did Saul really trust David? Did he have faith in God to use David? Or was there a back-up plan had David failed, whether it was to attack, run, or surrender? Well, no matter, because David slayed the giant with a stone and Goliath’s own sword. David would continue to love and worship God, who was indeed glorified.

2 Saul chose 3,000 elite troops from all Israel and went to search for David and his men near the rocks of the wild goats.

3 At the place where the road passes some sheepfolds, Saul went into a cave to relieve himself. But as it happened, David and his men were hiding farther back in that very cave!

4 “Now’s your opportunity!” David’s men whispered to him. “Today the Lord is telling you, ‘I will certainly put your enemy into your power, to do with as you wish.’” So David crept forward and cut off a piece of the hem of Saul’s robe.

5 But then David’s conscience began bothering him because he had cut Saul’s robe. 6 He said to his men, “The Lord forbid that I should do this to my lord the king. I shouldn’t attack the Lord’s anointed one, for the Lord himself has chosen him.” 7 So David restrained his men and did not let them kill Saul.

After Saul had left the cave and gone on his way, 8 David came out and shouted after him, “My lord the king!” And when Saul looked around, David bowed low before him.

9 Then he shouted to Saul, “Why do you listen to the people who say I am trying to harm you? 10 This very day you can see with your own eyes it isn’t true. For the Lord placed you at my mercy back there in the cave. Some of my men told me to kill you, but I spared you. For I said, ‘I will never harm the king—he is the Lord’s anointed one.’ 11 Look, my father, at what I have in my hand. It is a piece of the hem of your robe! I cut it off, but I didn’t kill you. This proves that I am not trying to harm you and that I have not sinned against you, even though you have been hunting for me to kill me. 1 Samuel 24:2-11 (NLT)

David was then sought after by Saul, who wanted the threat to his reign killed. David was the kind of man that was so driven by the presence and power of God that even when he had opportunity to stop the manhunt by killing Saul he would not. Saul was his king and David was loyal and faithful to him. David spared his pursuers life and showed him mercy. That is what a man after God’s own heart would do. Soon enough though, after his adventures with Saul, David would become king and the story would change.

The Unfaithful Man with Power

King David, may be the most esteemed hero of the Old Testament. According to historians he lived to be around 70 years of age from 1040 to 970 BC. David was a family man. He was married to Ahinoam the Jezreelitess, Abigail the Carmelitess, Maachah the daughter of Talmai king of Geshur, Haggith, Abital, Eglah, Michal, and Bathshua (Bathsheba) the daughter of Ammiel. 1 Samuel 19 also identifies Merab who was given to David by her father Saul.

David’s first wife was Michal who loved David very much (1 Samuel 18:18, 20). She was the key to David’s freedom from her father, King Saul, helping David to escape (1 Samuel 19). It is not reported that David loved Michal in return but he married her, perhaps to enhance his lineage and improve his claim to the throne. Perhaps David married her out of convenience and ambition and not love. In fact, when David married two more women, Abigail (after her first husband died, David praised God that she became eligible to be his wife) and Ahinoam, King Saul took Michal back to be married to another man, Palti, recognizing no longer her marriage to David—perhaps because Saul hated his enemy David out of jealousy (the king’s subjects adored David and placed their confidence in him), and because he understood that his daughter, Michal, was unloved and neglected by her husband.

When Saul died, David made it a point to have Michal brought back to him (2 Samuel 3:13-15) since he had paid the steep price of 100 Philistines killed by his sword for her. Michal’s new husband, Palti (according to King Saul’s “executive order” to annul her marriage to David), loved her and followed her along the way back to David weeping for her until he was sent home by David’s thugs. Anointed by God, David, a 30 year old man in the prime of his life, would become king over all of Israel. As king, David captured Jerusalem, moved into the Zion fortress, and called it the City of David. David conquered the Philistines and then gathered his troops (some 30,000 of them) to go to Baalah of Judah to retrieve the ark of the Lord, symbolic of the armies of heaven, which would proceed them into battle from that point forward.

A powerful trigger for David’s engaging in addictive behavior was victory and celebration. While David was in awe of the power of the Lord God, he was fearful of it. So much so that he did not want the ark of God in his home. For three months, David housed the ark of God at the house of a trusted friend, whom the Lord blessed richly while his friend held onto it. Then he had the ark of God returned to the palace and had it placed in a special tent. As David celebrated his triumphs with invited guests, he danced before the Lord, wearing a priestly garment that exposed his sexuality before his guests.

When David returned home to bless his own family, Michal, the daughter of Saul, came out to meet him. She said in disgust, “How distinguished the king of Israel looked today, shamelessly exposing himself to the servant girls like any vulgar person might do!” David retorted to Michal, “I was dancing before the Lord, who chose me above your father and all his family! He appointed me as the leader of Israel, the people of the Lord, so I celebrate before the Lord. Yes, and I am willing to look even more foolish than this, even to be humiliated in my own eyes! So Michal, the daughter of Saul, remained childless throughout her entire life.  But those servant girls you mentioned will indeed think I am distinguished!” So Michal, the daughter of Saul, remained childless throughout her entire life. 2 Samuel 6:20-23 (NLT)

David was wearing a linen undergarment, resembling an apron. It was thigh to knee length and would flop up as David danced. Did David deliberately expose himself before the servant girls? Or was David’s “nakedness” a symbol of humble worship before the Lord? Was David merely angry and used sarcasm to express his anger to Michal? Or was he making the point that he was chosen to lead? Is David’s point of appearing “distinguished” a reference to his genitalia? Or is David emphasizing that he is to be respected as God’s anointed king among the servants? Both rationales are possible depending on one’s perspective and interpretation. If the presumption is acceptable that David was obsessed with women with the authority to have any woman he wanted whenever he wanted her, it fits a pattern.

Michal at one time loved David and was happy to be married to him. However neglected by her husband David, she was given in marriage by her father to another and grew to love him. And then, reclaimed by David after her father died, she is back into marriage with a man who seems to have always had some kind of contempt for her. And there she would remain in a loveless marriage, not even with the honor of motherhood (since it is likely that her husband withheld from her his sexuality).

David would go on to marry four more women, a practice common to kings and wealthy men in David’s time but never sanctioned by God (Abraham had one wife; Isaac had one wife; and Jacob one wife upon his conversion). During that time he would be sexually active with his servants as well. David took on a number of what are referred to as concubines (“sort of” wives), and he would have children with them. Concubines were slaves of the palace that also provided sexual services for their master. However, with all of these women at his beckoned call throughout the palace, David still had some time alone to look out over the city. Perhaps he worried about his army in battle. Maybe he was concerned for his children. Could he have been in prayer for the nation under his reign? Or, I suppose it was possible that this king was feeling discontent in his circumstances and wondering what it was he was missing.

David and Bathsheba 

While looking out over the city from the palace roof, David’s eyes beheld the beauty of Bathsheba while she bathed on the roof of her house, customary for a woman to do to clean herself during her menstrual period. King David sent messengers to call on her, and she went to the king who engaged her in adulterous sex. Was Bathsheba a willing participant? She may have been ambitious enough that she was a willing adulterer who seduced the king from her roof and got what she wanted; or, maybe she was taken by strong suggestion by the king’s guys that the king values her company—or possibly taken by force—and seduced by him; or worse, “coerced”. It’s important to note that if Bathsheba was recently part of an arranged marriage she most likely would have been a young teenager and that much more vulnerable; as may have been the case with the rest of his wives and concubines, which was customary in that culture. (Please understand that the point of emphasizing the severity of David’s addictive—even horrific deviant—sin is to bring into focus the merciful grace of God whenever any sinner repents.)

Late one afternoon, after his midday rest, David got out of bed and was walking on the roof of the palace. As he looked out over the city, he noticed a woman of unusual beauty taking a bath. He sent someone to find out who she was, and he was told, “She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite.”

Then David sent messengers to get her; and when she came to the palace, he slept with her. She had just completed the purification rites after having her menstrual period. Then she returned home. 2 Samuel 11:2-4 (NLT)

Whether adultery or rape, these would not be David’s only crimes. When learning that Bathsheba became pregnant, it was obvious to David that the baby was his since her husband, Uriah had been away in battle for months. David got word to Uriah to take some leave and spend some quality time with his wife and family. If Uriah made love to his wife, it would not so be untimely that Bathsheba’s pregnancy would be the outcome of her time with her husband. But Uriah, out of respect for his fellow soldiers, warriors in the midst of battle, would not allow himself to experience pleasure by sleeping with his wife (I suppose a custom of nobility of some kind).

When Uriah arrived, David asked him how Joab and the army were getting along and how the war was progressing. Then he told Uriah, “Go on home and relax.” David even sent a gift to Uriah after he had left the palace. But Uriah didn’t go home. He slept that night at the palace entrance with the king’s palace guard.

When David heard that Uriah had not gone home, he summoned him and asked, “What’s the matter? Why didn’t you go home last night after being away for so long?” Uriah replied, “The Ark and the armies of Israel and Judah are living in tents, and Joab and my master’s men are camping in the open fields. How could I go home to wine and dine and sleep with my wife? I swear that I would never do such a thing.”

“Well, stay here today,” David told him, “and tomorrow you may return to the army.” So Uriah stayed in Jerusalem that day and the next. Then David invited him to dinner and got him drunk. But even then he couldn’t get Uriah to go home to his wife. Again he slept at the palace entrance with the king’s palace guard. 2 Samuel 11:7-13

“You’ve got to be kidding. I got him drunk; sent a gift with him that would enhance the mood, but… Now what do I do? The people can’t know that I am so heartless as to sleep with a commander’s wife while he’s fighting for our country. How now do I cover up this  mess (addictive behavior) I’ve gotten myself into?” Typical of addicted people is that as mistakes are made it becomes imperative to cover it up through lies and deceit. “The more I mess up, the more I gotta cover and lie; and the more I cover and lie, the bigger my mess.”

So the next morning David wrote a letter to Joab and gave it to Uriah to deliver. The letter instructed Joab, “Station Uriah on the front lines where the battle is fiercest. Then pull back so that he will be killed.” So Joab assigned Uriah to a spot close to the city wall where he knew the enemy’s strongest men were fighting. And when the enemy soldiers came out of the city to fight, Uriah the Hittite was killed along with several other Israelite soldiers. 2 Samuel 11:14-17 (NLT)

When Uriah’s wife heard that her husband was dead, she mourned for him. ²⁷ When the period of mourning was over, David sent for her and brought her to the palace, and she became one of his wives. Then she gave birth to a son. But the Lord was displeased with what David had done. 2 Samuel 11:26-27 (NLT)

David Repents

As the story goes, King David was so caught up in himself that he did not consider the gravity of his egregious behavior against even the most fundamental precepts of God as it pertains to creation, life, and worship to God. David had lost his way; that is until Nathan, his trusted advisor and beloved friend, got up the courage to confront his friend who was, first and foremost, King of Israel. Here is what Nathan the prophet said to David:

“There were two men in a certain town. One was rich, and one was poor. The rich man owned a great many sheep and cattle. The poor man owned nothing but one little lamb he had bought. He raised that little lamb, and it grew up with his children. It ate from the man’s own plate and drank from his cup. He cuddled it in his arms like a baby daughter. One day a guest arrived at the home of the rich man. But instead of killing an animal from his own flock or herd, he took the poor man’s lamb and killed it and prepared it for his guest.”

David was furious. “As surely as the Lord lives,” he vowed, “any man who would do such a thing deserves to die! He must repay four lambs to the poor man for the one he stole and for having no pity.”

Then Nathan said to David, “You are that man! The Lord, the God of Israel, says: I anointed you king of Israel and saved you from the power of Saul. I gave you your master’s house and his wives and the kingdoms of Israel and Judah. And if that had not been enough, I would have given you much, much more. Why, then, have you despised the word of the Lord and done this horrible deed? For you have murdered Uriah the Hittite with the sword of the Ammonites and stolen his wife.” 2 Samuel 12:1-9 (NLT)

Nathan would go on to prophecy that David would experience the circumstances of his addictive sin. David’s first newborn child with Bathsheba became sick and died. The consequences are what they are and David’s family would reap what they sowed. David fell prostrate on the ground and repented of his sin to God, from which we get the following famous Psalm of repentance, Psalm 51:

¹ Have mercy on me, O God,
because of your unfailing love.
Because of your great compassion,
blot out the stain of my sins.
² Wash me clean from my guilt.
Purify me from my sin.
³ For I recognize my rebellion;
it haunts me day and night.
⁴ Against you, and you alone, have I sinned;
I have done what is evil in your sight.
You will be proved right in what you say,
and your judgment against me is just.
⁵ For I was born a sinner—
yes, from the moment my mother conceived me.
⁶ But you desire honesty from the womb,
teaching me wisdom even there.

⁷ Purify me from my sins, and I will be clean;
wash me, and I will be whiter than snow.
⁸ Oh, give me back my joy again;
you have broken me—
now let me rejoice.
⁹ Don’t keep looking at my sins.
Remove the stain of my guilt.
¹⁰ Create in me a clean heart, O God.
Renew a loyal spirit within me.
¹¹ Do not banish me from your presence,
and don’t take your Holy Spirit from me.

¹² Restore to me the joy of your salvation,
and make me willing to obey you.
¹³ Then I will teach your ways to rebels,
and they will return to you.
¹⁴ Forgive me for shedding blood, O God who saves;
then I will joyfully sing of your forgiveness.
¹⁵ Unseal my lips, O Lord,
that my mouth may praise you.

¹⁶ You do not desire a sacrifice, or I would offer one.
You do not want a burnt offering.
¹⁷ The sacrifice you desire is a broken spirit.
You will not reject a broken and repentant heart, O God.
¹⁸ Look with favor on Zion and help her;
rebuild the walls of Jerusalem.
¹⁹ Then you will be pleased with sacrifices offered in the right spirit—
with burnt offerings and whole burnt offerings.
Then bulls will again be sacrificed on your altar.

What an incredible prayer of repentance. David hit all the right notes. He did know the heart of God. He understood that no matter how vile and deviant his sin, and no matter who all he violated as a result of his sin, ultimately all that mattered was that he sinned against God. He violated the law of God carrying with it the most severe of consequences. David spoke of his sin as being guilty of hostile rebellion and evil. It would require the mercy of a compassionate God of unfailing love to be cleansed of his guilt and shame. It would require this king to be completely broken and contrite before God to experience true repentance. David knew intellectually that any act of sacrificial worship would need to be from this broken repentant heart since if his lifestyle did not reflect as such his acts of praise to God would be in vain. He cannot worship two masters. To worship by living to please himself would render his praise to God as insincere and nullify the benefit of true spiritual worship in his life.

So the question for David is the same as it would be for you and me: What in the life of David changed?

Reality of Consequences

Was it the intentional plan of God that a man be married to more than one woman?

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him… This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” Genesis 2:18, 24 (NLT)

It is made clear in Scripture that God intended for one man and one woman to be united into marriage. While Moses wrote (Deuteronomy 21:15-17) that a man could be married more than once, it was in direct contrast to the unity God intended for marriage. Not only was David married to all of these women, but we are informed by Scripture that he was sexually involved with numerous other women (concubines) that were servants of his many wives. If the king found the woman attractive, he would not deny his sexual urges but rather give in to those urges whenever inclined to do so. While this was considered typical, even acceptable social behavior, I suppose we are to believe that it was harmless fun within the friendly confines of marriage and family, and that all participants were delighted with this arrangement of sexual freedom.

Sexual freedom, or sexually deviant addictive behavior? Let us continue the examination.

This sexual freedom in the immediate family of David produced dozens of children, the Book of 1 Chronicles lists David’s sons by various wives and concubines. In Hebron he had six sons: Amnon, by Ahinoam; Daniel, by Abigail; Absalom, by Maachah; Adonijah, by Haggith; Shephatiah, by Abital; and Ithream, by Eglah. By Bathsheba, his sons were Shammua; Shobab; Nathan; and Solomon. His sons born in Jerusalem by other wives included: Ibhar; Elishua; Eliphelet; Nogah; Nepheg; Japhia; Elishama; and Eliada. According to 2 Chronicles 11:18, Jerimoth, who is not mentioned in any of the genealogies, is mentioned as another of David’s sons. According to 2 Samuel 9:11, David adopted Jonathan’s son Mephibosheth as his own. David also had at least one daughter, Tamar by Maachah. In addition to the documented children from his wives were the children from his concubines. David was king for more than 30 years and produced at least as many children.

Imagine the confusion and complexity of emotion in a family of that size under what was essentially one roof in the presidential palace that they all lived in together. All of these children with different mothers as half-brothers and sisters living as one giant community. It was as combustible a blended family situation as one could imagine. Probably not all of the time, but as children grew up it is reported in The Old Testament that at least one sexual attraction developed between David’s oldest son, Amnon, and his daughter, Tamar. Amnon and Tamar have different mothers. One can presume that Tamar was quite fond of Amnon, but understood plainly that he was her brother, even though a half-brother. For Amnon, heir to David’s throne, though he could have married any woman/women of his choosing, was so drawn by his attraction to Tamar that he had to have her.

¹ Now David’s son Absalom had a beautiful sister named Tamar. And Amnon, her half brother, fell desperately in love with her. ² Amnon became so obsessed with Tamar that he became ill. She was a virgin, and Amnon thought he could never have her.

³ But Amnon had a very crafty friend—his cousin Jonadab. He was the son of David’s brother Shimea. ⁴One day Jonadab said to Amnon, “What’s the trouble? Why should the son of a king look so dejected morning after morning?” So Amnon told him, “I am in love with Tamar, my brother Absalom’s sister.” ⁵ “Well,” Jonadab said, “I’ll tell you what to do. Go back to bed and pretend you are ill. When your father comes to see you, ask him to let Tamar come and prepare some food for you. Tell him you’ll feel better if she prepares it as you watch and feeds you with her own hands.”

⁶ So Amnon lay down and pretended to be sick. And when the king came to see him, Amnon asked him, “Please let my sister Tamar come and cook my favorite dish as I watch. Then I can eat it from her own hands.” ⁷ So David agreed and sent Tamar to Amnon’s house to prepare some food for him.

⁸ When Tamar arrived at Amnon’s house, she went to the place where he was lying down so he could watch her mix some dough. Then she baked his favorite dish for him. ⁹ But when she set the serving tray before him, he refused to eat. “Everyone get out of here,” Amnon told his servants. So they all left. ¹⁰ Then he said to Tamar, “Now bring the food into my bedroom and feed it to me here.” So Tamar took his favorite dish to him. ¹¹ But as she was feeding him, he grabbed her and demanded, “Come to bed with me, my darling sister.” ¹² “No, my brother!” she cried. “Don’t be foolish! Don’t do this to me! Such wicked things aren’t done in Israel. ¹³ Where could I go in my shame? And you would be called one of the greatest fools in Israel. Please, just speak to the king about it, and he will let you marry me.”

¹⁴ But Amnon wouldn’t listen to her, and since he was stronger than she was, he raped her. ¹⁵ Then suddenly Amnon’s love turned to hate, and he hated her even more than he had loved her. “Get out of here!” he snarled at her. ¹⁶ “No, no!” Tamar cried. “Sending me away now is worse than what you’ve already done to me.” But Amnon wouldn’t listen to her. ¹⁷ He shouted for his servant and demanded, “Throw this woman out, and lock the door behind her!” ¹⁸ So the servant put her out and locked the door behind her. She was wearing a long, beautiful robe, as was the custom in those days for the king’s virgin daughters. ¹⁹ But now Tamar tore her robe and put ashes on her head. And then, with her face in her hands, she went away crying.

²⁰ Her brother Absalom saw her and asked, “Is it true that Amnon has been with you? Well, my sister, keep quiet for now, since he’s your brother. Don’t you worry about it.” So Tamar lived as a desolate woman in her brother Absalom’s house. ²¹ When King David heard what had happened, he was very angry. ²² And though Absalom never spoke to Amnon about this, he hated Amnon deeply because of what he had done to his sister. 2 Samuel 13:1-22 (NLT)

Imagine seeing this graphic scene in a movie. You would be horrified. What we are dealing with here are the logical, sensible consequences of addiction. It is entirely possible that the scene portrayed in 2 Samuel 13 between Amnon and Tamar is eerily similar to the scene between David and Bathsheba. It is possible that David had nothing more to do with Bathsheba until discovering that she was pregnant. In David’s case it was not incest with Bathsheba but it was at the very least adultery, and possibly it was rape. In either case, with all that David had in his garden of Eden kingdom, it was an addiction that required gratification.

So far, 2 Samuel 13 has been about addiction that led to incestuous rape, but the rest of the chapter tells the story of murderous revenge. Absalom would let enough time tick off the clock (two years) that Amnon would let his guard down leaving him vulnerable to his brother’s scheme of revenge. Amnon fell into Absalom’s trap as Absalom got Amnon drunk and persuaded all of King David’s sons to kill Amnon and they did.

Ah, sweet revenge. Is there anything more obsessive than the drive for revenge when one is seething in resentment. Rage, resentment and revenge was the code that David lived by when you examine the story behind the story. Rape, revenge, murder, shame and mourning. Like father, like sons. Victims and villains caught up in the vice grip of addiction. (Even David’s son Solomon, who would succeed David as king, repeated the sins of his father many times over—Deuteronomy 17:16-17, 1 Kings 11)

As they were on the way back to Jerusalem, this report reached David: “Absalom has killed all the king’s sons; not one is left alive!” The king got up, tore his robe, and threw himself on the ground. His advisers also tore their clothes in horror and sorrow. 2 Samuel 13:30-31 (NLT)

Would it soften the blow, lessen the pain for David that only Amnon was dead and now Absalom was fleeing for his life having given the order to murder his brother. (Sort of like a mob hit; the one giving the orders is ultimately held responsible.) Absalom would stay away for three years only to resurface (when David relented and reconciled with this son) to plot and scheme how to deceive and conquer the will of his father by aligning with enough of the military to actually drive his father out of the city of David into hiding; that is until the king would turn the tables and chase down Absalom. King David gave strict orders that those still aligned with Absalom be defeated and killed but that Absalom’s life be spared. However, when Joab and his men found Absalom helpless, caught by his hair hanging from a tree branch after his horse raced under it, they knew that to extinguish any future threat of risk that lie in wake in this bad seed, they needed to kill him and so they did just that; reporting to the king that Absalom’s death was in the chaos of the battle (2 Samuel 14-18).

²⁴ While David was sitting between the inner and outer gates of the town, the watchman climbed to the roof of the gateway by the wall. As he looked, he saw a lone man running toward them. ²⁵ He shouted the news down to David, and the king replied, “If he is alone, he has news.” As the messenger came closer, ²⁶ the watchman saw another man running toward them. He shouted down, “Here comes another one!” The king replied, “He also will have news.” ²⁷ “The first man runs like Ahimaaz son of Zadok,” the watchman said. “He is a good man and comes with good news,” the king replied.

²⁸ Then Ahimaaz cried out to the king, “Everything is all right!” He bowed before the king with his face to the ground and said, “Praise to the Lord your God, who has handed over the rebels who dared to stand against my lord the king.” ²⁹ “What about young Absalom?” the king demanded. “Is he all right?” Ahimaaz replied, “When Joab told me to come, there was a lot of commotion. But I didn’t know what was happening.” ³⁰ “Wait here,” the king told him. So Ahimaaz stepped aside.

³¹ Then the man from Ethiopia arrived and said, “I have good news for my lord the king. Today the Lord has rescued you from all those who rebelled against you.” ³² “What about young Absalom?” the king demanded. “Is he all right?” And the Ethiopian replied, “May all of your enemies, my lord the king, both now and in the future, share the fate of that young man!”

³³ The king was overcome with emotion. He went up to the room over the gateway and burst into tears. And as he went, he cried, “O my son Absalom! My son, my son Absalom! If only I had died instead of you! O Absalom, my son, my son.” 2 Samuel 18:24-33 (NLT)

Rock Bottom

David experienced the full weight of addiction’s consequences. He had come full circle in the cycle of addiction and finally hit rock bottom. Except at the bottom he was beaten up physically, emotionally, and spiritually. From what I am about to show you from Psalm 38, David is not sure how to express himself to God as he cries out to Him. It is from a broken spirit from a deeply wounded man who cannot take another thing. It also sounds like a man so broken and powerless before God that he is done chasing after the next thing for gratification since there is nothing left to gratify him. Booze won’t do it for him. Sex won’t do it for him. Possessions won’t do it for him. Being worshiped and adored by the people won’t do it. His family has withdrawn from him. He has lost the respect of a nation, and his reign is again in jeopardy. David is in the throes of severe grief; his heart is broken; he may even be experiencing symptoms of withdrawal from alcohol or something that has affected his physical body; but whatever it is, he is dying inside.

¹ O Lord, don’t rebuke me in your anger or discipline me in your rage! ² Your arrows have struck deep, and your blows are crushing me. ³ Because of your anger, my whole body is sick; my health is broken because of my sins. ⁴ My guilt overwhelms me—it is a burden too heavy to bear. ⁵ My wounds fester and stink because of my foolish sins. ⁶ I am bent over and racked with pain. All day long I walk around filled with grief. ⁷ A raging fever burns within me, and my health is broken. ⁸ I am exhausted and completely crushed. My groans come from an anguished heart. ⁹ You know what I long for, Lord; you hear my every sigh. ¹⁰ My heart beats wildly, my strength fails, and I am going blind. ¹¹ My loved ones and friends stay away, fearing my disease. Even my own family stands at a distance.

¹² Meanwhile, my enemies lay traps to kill me. Those who wish me harm make plans to ruin me. All day long they plan their treachery. ¹³ But I am deaf to all their threats. I am silent before them as one who cannot speak. ¹⁴ I choose to hear nothing, and I make no reply. ¹⁵ For I am waiting for you, O Lord. You must answer for me, O Lord my God. ¹⁶ I prayed, “Don’t let my enemies gloat over me or rejoice at my downfall.” ¹⁷ I am on the verge of collapse, facing constant pain.

¹⁸ But I confess my sins; I am deeply sorry for what I have done. ¹⁹ I have many aggressive enemies; they hate me without reason. ²⁰ They repay me evil for good and oppose me for pursuing good. ²¹ Do not abandon me, O Lord. Do not stand at a distance, my God. ²² Come quickly to help me, O Lord my savior. Psalm 38 (NLT)

Where does one go from here? For David, he was confronted by Joab (2 Samuel 19) who told him if he didn’t pull it together he would lose everything. David needed to sober up quickly or it was all over for him. That is how it is for anyone paralyzed by addiction. David acknowledged in Psalm 38 that the power of addiction in his life was so much bigger than he was, and that he would need the only One bigger than the power of his addiction and its consequences.

For a long time I considered David’s crying out in this fashion as a kind of victim pleading for mercy, rather than the repentant determination of David’s Psalm 51 confession that reads with a great deal of humility. His Psalm 38 confession has always wreaked of self-pity that I found a bit pathetic. However, upon further review I have come to realize that this confession (Psalm 38 was written years, maybe a decade or two after Psalm 51) is real. The emotion of this confession is raw and authentic. It not only contains an honest contriteness, but includes the anger and self-loathing of a man without answers who cannot turn back the clock for a do-over with a lifetime of regret. David, like anyone, if he knew then what he knows now, would have done a number of things quite differently. The problem with that is that he could not know then. He didn’t have the pain as his incentive to do things differently.

Repentance, Redemption, and Restoration

In the end through all of the ups and downs in David’s life, Faithful God saved him from his enemies. David had a repentant heart. And every single time that David went to Merciful God by confession seeking forgiveness, God was faithful to forgive him. Why? Because God loves his sons and daughters, and God loved David.

You might wonder, how sincere was David’s confession if he turned around and repeated the same sin again and again and again. I think it is safe to assume that David led a very conflicted life. When he was so caught up in self-centered obsessions and addictive behavior, like any addict, he did not have foresight to realize he was in the wrong and that his thoughts and actions on those thoughts and feelings was so destructive to himself, his family, and others. Whenever he came into awareness of his faults and sinful behavior he went to God in all sincerity and confessed his sin. With a broken humble spirit David confessed his sin and repented before the Lord. God forgave David and restored him.

As time wound down toward the end of David’s life, he sang the following from 2 Samuel 22: 

“The Lord is my rock, my fortress, and my savior; ³ my God is my rock, in whom I find protection. He is my shield, the power that saves me, and my place of safety. He is my refuge, my savior, the one who saves me from violence. ⁴ I called on the Lord, who is worthy of praise, and he saved me from my enemies. ⁵ “The waves of death overwhelmed me; floods of destruction swept over me. ⁶ The grave wrapped its ropes around me; death laid a trap in my path. ⁷ But in my distress I cried out to the Lord; yes, I cried to my God for help. He heard me from his sanctuary; my cry reached his ears.

²⁰ He led me to a place of safety; he rescued me because he delights in me. ²¹ The Lord rewarded me for doing right; he restored me because of my innocence. ²² For I have kept the ways of the Lord; I have not turned from my God to follow evil. ²³ I have followed all his regulations; I have never abandoned his decrees. ²⁴ I am blameless before God; I have kept myself from sin. ²⁵ The Lord rewarded me for doing right. He has seen my innocence.

⁴⁷ “The Lord lives! Praise to my Rock! May God, the Rock of my salvation, be exalted!”

As I read this psalm of worship from the lips of David, I ponder the question, “Is David delusional? He speaks of his innocence as having never sinned. The thing is: God is faithful! When He cleansed David of all unrighteousness, He washed him white as snow. The slate was wiped clean; a new start; renewed in the grace of Almighty God. It’s as if David never sinned in the eyes of God. David confessed his sin, and God was faithful and just to forgive him (1 John 1:9). In addition to David, there are so many more examples in Scripture of this unimaginable mercy—Paul (murder), Mary Magdalene (demon possession), Peter (denied knowing Jesus), the thief on the cross (crimes against humanity), you and me.

²¹ But now God has shown us a way to be made right with him without keeping the requirements of the law, as was promised in the writings of Moses and the prophets long ago. ²² We are made right with God by placing our faith in Jesus Christ. And this is true for everyone who believes, no matter who we are. ²³ For everyone has sinned; we all fall short of God’s glorious standard. ²⁴ Yet God, with undeserved kindness, declares that we are righteous. He did this through Christ Jesus when he freed us from the penalty for our sins.

²⁵ For God presented Jesus as the sacrifice for sin. People are made right with God when they believe that Jesus sacrificed his life, shedding his blood. This sacrifice shows that God was being fair when he held back and did not punish those who sinned in times past, ²⁶ for he was looking ahead and including them in what he would do in this present time. God did this to demonstrate his righteousness, for he himself is fair and just, and he declares sinners to be right in his sight when they believe in Jesus. ²⁷ Can we boast, then, that we have done anything to be accepted by God? No, because our acquittal is not based on obeying the law. It is based on faith. ²⁸ So we are made right with God through faith and not by obeying the law. Romans 3:21-28 (NLT)

One might say, “Grace? Jesus hadn’t been to the cross yet when David declared his innocence.” God has always been a compassionate merciful gracious God of unfailing love. David was God’s servant—a man after His own heart—and when he experienced the mercy of his Lord it was indeed an experience. In fact, when you read the words of David from 2 Samuel 22, you get the sense that David was keenly aware of the Messiah (by revelation from God’s Spirit) as the Savior from his selfish sin. He seemed to have relationship with Immanuel, meaning “God is with us” (Isaiah 7:14). David experienced the mercy of the Lord.

It was only fair—just—that God forgive David of his past. Fair to whom? Where is the justice for the Uriahs of the world—the victims of the perpetrators of sin? The truth of the matter is that while Uriah was a victim of David’s selfishness, He was a perpetrator of selfish sin against victims of his selfishness. We are all victims as well as perpetrators of selfish sin. God’s demonstration of His idea of justice applies to repentant perpetrators and to their victims. Jesus died that all would have new life. It is only just and fair to God that all who repent receive the gift of the sacrifice of His Son since all have fallen short of God’s standard without grace. David was the recipient of the gracious gift of new life just as you and I are.

The point here for you is that no matter what you have thought, felt, or done, nothing can keep you from the love of God, and if you humbly confess your sin with a sincere heart, nothing can keep you or hide you from the mercy of God. You can experience the innocence that David knew in his experience whenever he repented of his selfish addictive sin (“I am blameless before God”).

David said, “May God, the Rock of my salvation, be exalted!” The most meaningful synonym of the word ‘salvation’ is recovery. This is what David experienced and what God would love for you to experience today. Please, even now, reach out to a reachable accessible Father and tell Him whatever it is you need to tell Him, and discover a wonderful treasure that will set your soul free and lead you into the new life experience of real peace and real joy.

In the end, David was about building the Temple to the Lord. While David experienced a history of addiction to selfishness that led to consequences beyond imagination suffered by his family as well as an entire nation—Hundreds of thousands of people were impacted directly by David’s choices as a result of obsession and addiction to self—his legacy would include his commitment to doing the work required to fulfill the plan and purpose of God.

Then King David turned to the entire assembly and said, “My son Solomon, whom God has clearly chosen as the next king of Israel, is still young and inexperienced. The work ahead of him is enormous, for the Temple he will build is not for mere mortals—it is for the Lord God himself! Using every resource at my command, I have gathered as much as I could for building the Temple of my God. Now there is enough gold, silver, bronze, iron, and wood, as well as great quantities of onyx, other precious stones, costly jewels, and all kinds of fine stone and marble. “And now, because of my devotion to the Temple of my God, I am giving all of my own private treasures of gold and silver to help in the construction. This is in addition to the building materials I have already collected for his holy Temple.
1 Chronicles 29:1-3 (NLT)

David became fearless in his pursuit of obediently serving the Lord God in preparation of the Temple. His heart of repentant obedience and commitment to serving of God was the crowning jewel of a roller coaster existence. David’s recovery and final legacy ultimately was a 180 degree turn from doing whatever he could to gratify is addictive impulses to giving everything back to God that was God’s (on loan to David) in the first place. He surrendered all of his prosperous resources and wealth to the building of the Temple, a place where the Spirit of God would literally dwell.

Then David praised the Lord in the presence of the whole assembly:

“O Lord, the God of our ancestor Israel, may you be praised forever and ever! Yours, O Lord, is the greatness, the power, the glory, the victory, and the majesty. Everything in the heavens and on earth is yours, O Lord, and this is your kingdom. We adore you as the one who is over all things. Wealth and honor come from you alone, for you rule over everything. Power and might are in your hand, and at your discretion people are made great and given strength.

“O our God, we thank you and praise your glorious name! But who am I, and who are my people, that we could give anything to you? Everything we have has come from you, and we give you only what you first gave us! We are here for only a moment, visitors and strangers in the land as our ancestors were before us. Our days on earth are like a passing shadow, gone so soon without a trace. “O Lord our God, even this material we have gathered to build a Temple to honor your holy name comes from you! It all belongs to you! I know, my God, that you examine our hearts and rejoice when you find integrity there. You know I have done all this with good motives, and I have watched your people offer their gifts willingly and joyously. 1 Chronicles 29:10-18 (NLT)

The Call of Recovery

What does this mean for you and I today concerning our recovery?

Because of God’s grace to me, I have laid the foundation like an expert builder. Now others are building on it. But whoever is building on this foundation must be very careful. For no one can lay any foundation other than the one we already have—Jesus Christ. Anyone who builds on that foundation may use a variety of materials—gold, silver, jewels, wood, hay, or straw. But on the judgment day, fire will reveal what kind of work each builder has done. The fire will show if a person’s work has any value. If the work survives, that builder will receive a reward. But if the work is burned up, the builder will suffer great loss. The builder will be saved, but like someone barely escaping through a wall of flames. Don’t you realize that all of you together are the temple of God and that the Spirit of God lives in you? God will destroy anyone who destroys this temple. For God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.
1 Corinthians 3:10-17 (NLT)

Because, the Bible says, we in our bodies are the Temple where the Spirit of God dwells, like the surrendered commitment of David, we must obediently be doing the work of the Lord by the way we live each hour of each day. This is the call of recovery. Like David, we must be so careful not to bring harm to the Temple of the Lord but be willing to serve however we are called to serve. First, we must preserve the Temple of God. The Temple of God where the Spirit of Christ dwells is our body and mind, heart and soul. It is incumbent on us then that we abstain from that which in any way causes harm to the Temple. Second, we are called to do the work of building on the foundation that God has laid down for us in His Son. It is in responding to this call of obedience to service and giving that the blessing and promise—the miracle—is realized in this life of faithful recovery. When we really come to understand this truth, like David, we win the ultimate prize. Like David, we are people of God’s own heart… the apple of His eye.

Then David continued, “Be strong and courageous, and do the work. Don’t be afraid or discouraged, for the Lord God, my God, is with you. He will not fail you or forsake you. He will see to it that all the work related to the Temple of the Lord is finished correctly. 1 Chronicles 28:20 (NLT)

Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think. Ephesians 3:20 (NLT)

Romancing the Stone (Rebuilding the Road)

by Steven Gledhill for FREEdom from MEdom Project

Romancing the Stone is the worship of idols we have erected from our entitlement-driven obsessions that direct us in our worship of self (“extravagant respect or admiration for or devotion to an object of esteem” – Merriam-Webster). As you consider this truth throughout the article, pay attention to the words in capital letters that tend to be indicators of our idolatrous obsessions.

Toward the end of the twentieth century (1984 to be exact), Hollywood gave us an adventure movie called Romancing the Stone, starring Michael Douglas, Kathleen Turner, and Danny DeVito. The story is about Joan, a romance novelist, who travels to Columbia to search for her sister who’s been kidnapped by smugglers. She runs into Jack who rescues her from a rather tense circumstance. Together they stumble onto a whole bunch of marijuana and a treasure map. After inhaling, they begin their journey with a two-fold purpose. Jack is motivated by greed and Joan by desperation to find and save her sister. They both find what they are looking for and then the adventure ensues as they try to hold onto their treasure while being hunted. The treasure is a huge emerald worth a fortune. Since Joan’s sister is tangled up in the mess with her captors, everyone involved in the story is about one thing; securing the stone. No one trusts anyone and everyone is willing to risk everything, including their very lives to get what they want; what they each believe they are entitled to.

It could be said that the emerald in the movie was so at the forefront of everyone’s attention that it became the focal point of all that mattered. Jack even dives into the sea to wrestle with a crocodile to obtain the stone. Jack isn’t seen from again until she shows up outside of Joan’s house with his big boat that he bought wearing alligator-skinned boots. What a happy ending to an entertaining movie.

The Bible has some things to say about how we in our selfishly ambitious pursuits are inclined to romancing the stones in our world. There are important things to say about this romance from a Scriptural perspective. The importance we place on the stones along our way becomes an obstacle to the lifestyle of humble obedience we have been called to in relationship with God. The stone can be so big and heavy that it becomes impossible to move. It is so thick that not even the voice of God can be heard through it. It moves in on us to the point that it is impenetrable and we cannot break through it.

I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean; I will cleanse you from all your impurities and from all your idols. I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh. And I will put my Spirit in you and move you to follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. Ezekiel 36:25-27 (NIV)

There is in my opinion a direct parallel between this landmark passage in Ezekiel and Isaiah 57. Both Scriptures deal with the specific matter of the human heart being penetrated and contaminated with impurity delivered in the form of idolatry. So far, all of the commentary I have found on the phrases “heart of stone” and “heart of flesh” appear to center on the theme of God putting in us a new spirit that penetrates a hardened stoney heart cleansing us from impurity and made sensitive to the touch of God. I love this and will discuss it further.

For now, I would like to ask you to consider another take on the expression “heart of stone” from the word God gave to Isaiah. Let’s do some Bible study.

You worship your idols with great passion
beneath the oaks and under every green tree.
You sacrifice your children down in the valleys,
among the jagged rocks in the cliffs.
Your gods are the smooth stones in the valleys.
You worship them with liquid offerings and grain offerings.
They, not I, are your inheritance.
Do you think all this makes me happy? Isaiah 57:5-6 (NLT)

These smooth stones Isaiah is talking about became cherished possessions. Apparently these people that God is talking about were with their children among the jagged rocks to get to these stones. It sounds to me like the area was quite dangerous and children slipped through and/or fell on these rocks and suffered fatal injuries while making their way down the mountain side. Maybe they used the children to fit into tight crevasses to reach for the smoothest, most colorful stones; stones that would be erected in service to their idols. Or worse, the adults may have literally sacrificed their children to their gods from under the jagged rocks along the floor of the valley as worthy sacrifice to their gods. Either way, these smooth stones were of high enough value that people, perhaps even families, were willing to sacrifice the lives of their kids for the sake of gratifying their obsessions.

Is this so different than the risks we assume with our families in the selfishly ambitious pursuit of our obsessions at the expense of the well being of those we love most? It is easy to say this about obvious chemical addictions and criminal behavior – that drug addiction and criminal lifestyles are valued over marriage and family, and sacrificing the children is the probable consequence. It is still easier to say this about parents who have adulterous relationships at the expense of the well-being of their families. Is it just as easy to say this about parents that do not seem to get along because of the behavioral and cognitive forms of idolatry and self-worship? Is not the well-being of children and family life not in peril when control issues and power struggles, resentments, laziness, lust, and jealousy are operating like predators seeking to devour the relationships of those who once shared authentic love for one another?

You have committed adultery on every high mountain.
There you have worshiped idols   and have been unfaithful to me.
You have put pagan symbols  on your doorposts and behind your doors.
You have left me  and climbed into bed with these detestable gods.
You have committed yourselves to them.
You love to look at their naked bodies. Isaiah 57:7-8 (NLT)

What are the idols you worship in your daily experience?

What are the pagan symbols in your home?

Now it gets personal. So I will be honest about my struggle with this precept for obedience unto God in my own life. TIME is an idol for me but not in the way you might think. If you are thinking the matter of time in your life you might obsess with how busy you are and that there never seems to be enough time. For me, I am selfish with my time. Because it’s mine! It is my time. I so enjoy leisure time. Not because I am so active. I am a couch potato when I am not working or writing. I enjoy watching sports, good movies, news talk on television, and King of Queens reruns.

Imagine if I redeemed that time really pressing in to the presence of the Lord talking to God. He is there with me. He loves me so much and absolutely enjoys chatting with me. His Spirit within me groans for fellowship as I steady my eyes at a plate of glass waiting for the next laugh line, the payoff at the conclusion of a good movie, or falling asleep to late night news talk on cable. It’s no better than the teenager that comes into the room with mom and dad, and when they ask how he or she is doing there is not a word of response; not even a glancing look. Perhaps an idol in my experience is LAZINESS. Something to think about when considering what might be idolatry in your life as well.

I so much want to be entertained. I suppose the “need” for ENTERTAINMENT is something I worship in my life. It definitely hinders my prayer life. It is another smooth stone on the alter I have built to a false god called ME. Perhaps my television is the pagan symbol of my idolatry regarding how I spend my time, if not on its own an idol in my life. For some of you clocks may be pagan symbols of your anxious obsession with effectively managing your time. Is your busy schedule costing you valuable opportunities with your spouse and children? Are you addicted to your work and your professional existence? Is your career an idol or at least a reflection your worship of time?

Perhaps idolizing time is the spawn of an even greater god: CONTROL. Why are there problems with patience that create anxiety fueling what can amount to considerable stress? Isn’t the lack of or absence of control at the center of anxiety and stress, clinically proven to destroy a person’s health and take lives? The need for control is again an entitlement problem at the hand of unmet expectation. When we do not possess what we want and need and believe we deserve we are not in control. The loss of control can trend toward preoccupation and obsession with whatever it takes to get it back. When exhaustive attempts are futile, as they typically are, to regain and resume control, the need for a remedy arises to the forefront of the daily experience. When the anxiety and stress – FEAR – of lost control hits the boiling point, and the acquired remedy (pagan symbols of idolatrous worship) is insufficient due to its impermanence, a vicious cycle of depression and despair may take over. The effects are paralyzing. One can feel lost in the world.

Why drugs? (And oh by the way, alcohol and nicotine are drugs… and food and sex can have the effects of drugs.) Drugs alter brain chemistry and on the surface can be an attractive remedy for anxiety and pain. The need for an escape route into various forms of gratification provide relief for a minute but then it’s right back into anxiety and pain.

Another idol in my life has been the problem of LUST. Not only lust of the eyes, but lust for things I want and COVET. While it is easy to rationalize that lust is human nature, it is a problem that can destroy lives, marriages, and families. AMBITION and GREED are bi-products of lust and JEALOUSY. Selfish ENTITLEMENT is born out of a sin nature. It drives our worship of self, which is at the root of this thing I refer to as MEdom… my addiction to me.

Have you ever thought of RESENTMENT as an idol in your human experience? Resentment is the result of unresolved anger. Anger is a human emotion that by itself is not sin. Jesus became angry at the merchants in the temple cheating gentiles and roared through the temple with a whip cutting into their potential profits as he stripped the wheelers and dealers of their merchandise and currency.

Scripture implores us, “Don’t sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.” (Ephesians 4:26-27 NLT) What it is to be controlled by anger is to let it seep into our deeper thoughts and emotions to the point that we are resentful and bitter. Bitter resentment is a killer to relationships and one’s own esteem and self-respect. Being controlled by anger is idolatry, just as being controlled by lust, jealousy, greedy ambition, control, and fear is to be enslaved under the spell of these idols. It most definitely opens the door to demonic attack from oppressive spirits, thus Paul wrote that being controlled by anger – resentment – gives our demonic enemy a foothold. It means that in addition to our selfish prideful flesh, the devil is allowed to dig in and fuel our obsessions with resentments.

One of two things follows resentment: forgiveness or some kind of VENGEANCE, revenge being another idolatrous behavior. Following forgiveness comes healing; following vengeance comes one of two things: regret or a bitter dissatisfaction that revenge was once again only temporary gratification before lingering bitterness prevails.

Have you ever considered SHAME as an idol to be worshipped?

Are there things that have happened to you that, even though you were an innocent victim, have so profoundly impacted how you see yourself that you feel ugly inside and cannot seem to let it go. It hurts so much. Do the memories of a wounded past have so much power that they own you? Has your spiritual enemy persuaded you to believe the lie that your past somehow defines you?

The lie is that you are ugly and that you cannot love or be loved. You need to cry out to your Savior Jesus Christ for healing and deliverance from that kind of shame. To continue to hold on to it is to give it a life of its own, not allowing you to live the life of peace you are called to in relationship with Jesus (1 Corinthians 7:15). To continue to believe in the lies of the enemy is to exalt the memory and shame of your past experience – PAIN worship. It can be a false god in your life that is slowly killing you and an obstruction to relationship with God who gives life to the hurting and oppressed.

Then there is the shame of what you have done that you have come to believe is unforgivable. Working in a prison, treating men who are guilty of despicable acts has been a difficult challenge for me. Most of these men are at a place where they have hit bottom. They are broken and contrite, and very ashamed. Most of the men who are in a sincere relationship with God did not find God in prison. They returned to God in prison. These men wrestle with the shame of their past and it is deep in substance. Horrible things were done to them as children and they have done horrible things. Most are both victims and villains. This is a cold dark reality. Their past is still an open wound. It may be beginning to heal, but like a scab that is ripped off every time something rubs up against it, causes the sins of the past to bleed all over them again.

The truth is that the blood of Jesus covers the shame of past sin and regret. That is why Apostle Paul made the point of writing that, “The kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There’s no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.” (2 Corinthians 7:10 NLT) The Apostle John wrote that, Even if we feel guilty, God is greater than our feelings, and he knows everything.” (1 John 3:20 NLT) It is not lost on our loving Father God to have written for us through these apostles that we will struggle with unforgiveness – self-condemnation. It is crucial to a healthy Christ-centered life that you do not give honor to the shame of your past. Instead of idolizing the thing that is causing you pain, let it go into the hands of your redeemer.

To allow God to heal your wounds (“by His stripes we are healed”) will mean that the scabs that could so easily get ripped open and bleed are now scars. Scars are healed wounds that, while the mark serves as a reminder of your past, no longer have power and will no longer own you. Scars are evidence that you have been set free from your past to live the life of peace you have been destined for in relationship with Christ.

Whether as an attempt to regain control, to protect ourselves from feeling or experiencing fear, or to minimize or maximize anything of consequence, LYING is a key element of idol worship. Lying is critical in the pursuit of gratification and relief. Lying can be chronic and compulsive; even pathological, meaning that the liar is sick. Compulsive pathological liars cannot help themselves. From lying comes cheating, deception (truth-bending), and stealing. Lying will destroy people and families and can cause severe, irreparable damage. Lying is definitely a “drug” of choice to attempt to escape something painful. Lying is a drug with a brief shelf life. Once the lie is exposed the pain increases into something even more severe than it likely would have been had the lie not occurred. Unless of course, more lying helps to hold off the crash and burn. But like running out of the drug, when the lying runs out, the crash and burn is a certainty.

To not experience the healing power of God setting you free from the past is to live in fear. Remember that FEAR is itself an idol to be worshipped. The pagan symbols of the false god that is fear take on forms of every kind. F.E.A.R., I have written about before, is Failed Expectations Affecting (or Altering) Reality. The reality for us set free in relationship with God is a life of peace and joy, even with life’s challenges and disappointments. Reality for even those in relationship with God blinded by the fear god is obsession with temporary fixes and remedies that are ultimately destructive and depressing. The fear god deceives our will to fall into a love relationship with the darkness and all that resides there.  When gripped by the fear god, we do not sleep. No matter how weary we become, we find the will and the strength to continue the search for a better life. Unfortunately, once we have veered off the road into something wrong our travels take us deeper into darkness.

You sent your ambassadors far away; you descended to the very realm of the dead!
You wearied yourself by such going about, but you would not say, ‘It is hopeless.’
You found renewal of your strength, and so you did not faint. Isaiah 57:9-10 (NIV)

You have traveled far, even into the world of the dead, to find new gods to love.
You grew weary in your search, but you never gave up. Desire gave you renewed strength,
and you did not grow weary. Isaiah 57:9-10 (NLT)

Isaiah now is writing about the futility of addictive obsessions that sink us into deep dark places. Traveling far into the world of the dead is deviance into a hedonistic carnal lifestyle in search of new gods, willing to sacrifice everything and everyone in the addict’s hopeless attempt to end, or at least, ease the suffering. King David wrote about his addiction nightmare: “My loved ones and friends stay away, fearing my disease. Even my own family stands at a distance.” (Psalm 38:11) The need and desire for remedy is so intense that even while fatigued and weary, the search for the next high – the next fix – is strengthened.

Do you understand what God is saying here through his prophet Isaiah? What does it mean, “Into the world of the dead” for you and me, today? For us I believe this passage could refer to anything we surrender our will to that can harm and destroy us. Yet, even when down and out in the midst of pain and suffering, weary from the insanity of addiction, desperation for escape and relief, or perhaps some kind of internal validation about our very existence, there is the renewed energy to do whatever it takes to find what we’re looking for, to get what we believe we need and deserve, even though it is killing us.

“Are you afraid of these idols?  Do they terrify you?
Is that why you have lied to me  and forgotten me and my words?

Now I will expose your so-called good deeds. None of them will help you.

Let’s see if your idols can save you when you cry to them for help.
Why, a puff of wind can knock them down!  If you just breathe on them, they fall over!
But whoever trusts in me will inherit the land  and possess my holy mountain.” Isaiah 57:11-13 (NLT)

We can become so dependent on our “drugs” of choice that we lose our way. God is talking to His chosen people. At that time the chosen people of God were the Jews in and around Israel. Today, the chosen people of God include gentiles, so the same truths apply to us. I previously described several idols (gods) of the flesh (the words in italicized capital letters) that operate in our daily experience like a vacuum, sucking us in to the point that we can’t see straight. We can be so absorbed by RESENTMENT that it’s laced into every thought we have. LUST and selfish AMBITION can and will govern our lives as we bow down and worship these gods. We can be so wrapped up into things we cannot CONTROL, particularly when it comes to our precious TIME , that interaction with family and friends and even with God suffers to the point that the relationships die.

We are afraid to let go and get out of our own way. We hold on to what we believe we need and call on our gods (you hate that I call them that, don’t you) for help and strength only to be disappointed time and time again. And sadly, and too often tragically, when our idols fail us, the result is destruction and doom and even death. God is saying that the stature of these false gods that we have come to rely on are so weakly feeble and fragile that it does not take all that much to send things crashing down into utter ruin.

Consumed by FEAR though we commit to our quest for the smooth stones that has replaced our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, the Stone that the builder rejected (1 Peter 2:7). So long as we are romancing these idols, these false gods, in our lives we interrupt the promised blessing of abundant life of transcendent peace and unspeakable joy.

Thank God, He has not given up on us!

And it will be said: “Build up, build up, prepare the road! Remove the obstacles out of the way of my people.” For this is what the high and exalted One says— he who lives forever, whose name is holy: “I live in a high and holy place, but also with the one who is contrite and lowly in spirit, to revive the spirit of the lowly and to revive the heart of the contrite. Isaiah 57:14-15 (NIV)

God says, “Rebuild the road!  Clear away the rocks and stones so my people can return from captivity.” The high and lofty one who lives in eternity, the Holy One, says this: “I live in the high and holy place  with those whose spirits are contrite and humble. I restore the crushed spirit of the humble and revive the courage of those with repentant hearts. Isaiah 57:14-15 (NLT)

Here we go into one of the great promises of salvation. The word ‘salvation’ is our evangelical word for redemption but it is also a word for recovery and restoration. God is proclaiming loudly that He is preparing the way to rebuild the road. This is a prophecy of the coming Messiah who through His sacrifice removes the obstacles that are between God and His people. It is through relationship with Jesus Christ that we can live in fellowship with God in eternity in that high and holy place set apart from the evil that has fostered an attitude of worship unto false gods beginning with the god of SELF. I am the chief obstacle in the way of relationship with God. Jesus has brought into my will and my life the Spirit of God desiring to live within me and through me into new life.

This is what grace is all about. We cheated on God in the past; will continue to cheat on God in the future as we are inclined to do as long as we have a sin nature of entitlement. God is faithful and just to forgive us so long as we are honest about it (1 John 1:9) and commit our intention to live (in relationship with Christ) a life set apart from our idolatrous and adulterous ways. That’s like one spouse telling the other about her adulterous lifestyle of marital infidelity and being told she is forgiven; and so long as she is intentioned in her heart to be faithful, her future mistakes and affairs are forgiven as well. And according to 1 John 3:20, even when she struggles from a place of guilt with accepting that she is forgiven, and perhaps acts out even more as an adulterer, the her husband insures that she is forgiven. How did the husband insure that his bride is forgiven? He did so through the sacrifice of his only son.

Through Isaiah, God declared that our worship of false gods is in fact adultery. There is no way to sugarcoat this fact. Our worship of all of these obstacles is adultery. And even though we are forgiven, whenever we relapse into having yet another affair with an idol of the flesh, fellowship suffers and blessing is held at bay; not by God so much (even though God can certainly choose to withhold blessing) but by us since our hands are full with our mess and not available to receive what God so freely gives.

What God wants is a humble and contrite heart. This means that I am ashamed of my adulterous behavior. This means I am willing to accept responsibility for the romancing the smooth stones found in the valley of my sin. This means I have remorse and regret concerning my guilt. This means I admit I am powerless when left to my own devices to try and control what I really cannot control, starting with my thoughts, feelings, and imagination. This means that what I want is to be in active fellowship with my Redeemer Jesus Christ; that I want to experience the best of the new life that He wants and has for me. Jesus is the bridge, the rope, the lifeline to God. I cannot buy my stairway to heaven as the song suggests. It is only through right relationship with God that I have access to Him for all eternity. Praise God!

He created you and me for relationship with Him to have sweet communion together. God is emotional and created us in His image to be emotional creatures. It is said in Scripture that God is jealous for us. John the revelator writes that Jesus stands at the door knocking, wanting desperately to be let in. Reading Isaiah here, I get the impression that it might not be just a tapping on the door of my life. I get the sense He is pounding on the door and my opening the door for Him is because my life depends on it. He is pounding on the door like a fireman desperate to get to someone who just might burn to death the way things are going.

I will not accuse them forever, nor will I always be angry, for then they would faint away because of me—the very people I have created. I was enraged by their sinful greed; I punished them, and hid my face in anger, yet they kept on in their willful ways. Isaiah 57:16-17 (NIV)

I have seen what they do, but I will heal them anyway! I will lead them. I will comfort those who mourn, bringing words of praise to their lips. May they have abundant peace, both near and far,” says the Lord, who heals them. Isaiah 57: 18-19 (NLT)

It is clear from this passage that God is angry with me when I will not let Him in, preferring to serve the gods of lust and greed, feeling entitled to what I deserve outside of fellowship with the giver of all good gifts. Like a parent being angry with a willful child my Heavenly Father is angry with me when I make a mess. He punishes me in love, at least allowing me to reap the consequences of my disobedience.

And like a loving father, He does not leave me there to internalize my guilt to the point that out of that guilt I am somehow defined by it. He comes to me and asks to come in so that He can interact with me, forgive me and prove to me how much He loves me. He loves me so much He died for me. And on the third day after experiencing all of the worst of dying and condemnation, the soul and spirit of Jesus returned into new life. Even the tomb was alive; no death to be found. Your sin and mine had been extinguished for all of eternity. One thing remained for new life to be experienced to the full. The stone was the final obstacle. The stone that buried Jesus was the last of the smooth stones to be dealt with. Our romance with evil was conquered once and for all. The stone was rolled away forever. Jesus arose and left the tomb as if our lives depended on it.

When you continue romancing the smooth stones, the idols, the false gods of the flesh, it’s as though you have chosen to live in the tomb of your sin… self-centered entitlement to indulge in carnal-minded nonsense. I warn you, today. Leave the tomb. The stone has been rolled away. You are free to go. Do not believe the lies about entitlement that will some day entomb you for eternity if in the end you reject Jesus Christ. That is a willful decision. No one to BLAME (another false god of the flesh). There will be a day when the stone will again seal the tomb. To live for eternity entombed is to die for eternity in utter darkness. Choose life, today! Do not hesitate. Be full of the best of new life in the family of Almighty God.

Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses (consequences). Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life. Deuteronomy 30:19

In the family of God we are the church, the bride of Jesus Christ. The premise of marriage is set on the marriage relationship between Christ and His bride. It is a romance that Jesus has with His bride. His is jealous for my attention and affection. In this marriage there is no room for other gods. He wants all of me. He desires that I have joy so amazing I cannot describe it… joy unspeakable. Peace that I can understand is reasonable peace of mind. He desires that I experience peace that transcends my comprehension.

Yes, you who trust him recognize the honor God has given him. But for those who reject him, “The stone that the builders rejected has now become the cornerstone.” 1 Peter 2:7 (NLT)

The cornerstone is the foundational piece that everything rests on. Because the world has rejected Jesus, when the winds of change in the land come, any house not built on Jesus will collapse; every single one of them. The Bible says that anyone whose house is built on the Rock that is Jesus Christ is a living stone, trusting Jesus for salvation and blessing.

You are coming to Christ, who is the living cornerstone of God’s temple. He was rejected by people, but he was chosen by God for great honor. And you are living stones that God is building into his spiritual temple. What’s more, you are his holy priests. Through the mediation of Jesus Christ, you offer spiritual sacrifices that please God. As the Scriptures say,

“I am placing a cornerstone in Jerusalem, chosen for great honor, and anyone who trusts in him will never be disgraced.” 1 Peter 2:5-6 (NLT)

When the stone at the center of my worship is another god, my relationship with Christ suffers. Unless I repent and give up my adulterous affair with what is ultimately my irrational belief about what I deserve, I can suffer for eternity. Apostle James writes in the first chapter of his book that as long as my loyalty is divided between my marriage (my relationship with Christ) and my affair (my relationship with these idols of the flesh), I am double-minded and unstable in all that I do, stuck in a core belief of entitlement. I am tossed around between these two relationships, subject to human reasoning, and therefore full of doubt about the immeasurable work God can do in my life (see Ephesians 3:20). In my doubt I should not expect to receive anything since my cognitive and spiritual confusion will spoil the blessing and sabotage my hope for God’s best in my life (James 1:5-8).

Jesus referred to Himself as the Rock. When my worship is as a bride in romance with the bridegroom, romancing the Rock, that is when it all work together for me because what I do in my daily experience is an expression of my love for Jesus, and what He does from within me and through me is a reflection of His compassionate merciful love for me.

It is in the end a matter of life and death.

Isaiah concludes:

“But those who still reject me are like the restless sea, which is never still but continually churns up mud and dirt. There is no peace for the wicked,” says my God. Isaiah 57:20-21 (NLT)

Enough said.