{"id":1862,"date":"2011-10-22T15:30:16","date_gmt":"2011-10-22T20:30:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/member\/?p=1862"},"modified":"2011-10-31T18:33:39","modified_gmt":"2011-10-31T23:33:39","slug":"twrac-039-102211-overcoming-thinking-problems-with-thinking-patterns","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/member\/applications\/twrac-039-102211-overcoming-thinking-problems-with-thinking-patterns","title":{"rendered":"TWRAC 039 (10\/22\/11): Overcoming Thinking Problems"},"content":{"rendered":"

This Week’s Recovery Application Challenge<\/h2>\n

Be sure to have completed TWIRL 039<\/span><\/a><\/span> before proceeding with this exercise.<\/h5>\n

Overcoming Thinking Problems<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n

As you do the work of understanding thinking problems, seeing the truth through lies that you tend to believe due to irrational beliefs about activating events throughout your life, you have the opportunity to overcome both real and perceived failures. Failures are unmet expectations whether the expectations are realistic or unrealistic, healthy or unhealthy. Either way, failed expectations tend to affect your reality, which can lead to fear of failure. <\/span><\/p>\n

Healthy or not, fear trends toward immobility. Ever been so scared you could not move? Fear of failure works the same way. While the need to protect yourself seems to serve a logical purpose, when self-preservation is predicated on an irrational belief then the need to protect yourself serves a purpose that is not logical, perhaps not even sensible. Fear of failure can have a paralyzing effect and your life becomes non-productive. \u00a0 \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Overcoming F.E.A.R. (Failed Expectations Affecting Reality)<\/em><\/h3>\n

The more we are pummeled by unmet expectations, the more we develop a deepening sense of failure that results in the experience of fear. Once frozen by fear, we tend to withdraw, feel unworthy, isolate (pull way), alienate (push away), self-preserve and protect, erect barriers and walls, and defer from risk.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Consequences of F.E.A.R. include: unhealthy relationships, dysfunctional families, addictive behaviors, loneliness, tendencies toward passive-aggressive behavior, affection and intimacy issues, engaging in abusive relationships (victim or villain), self-loathing and self-abusive behavior.<\/span>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n