{"id":1198,"date":"2010-12-08T10:41:51","date_gmt":"2010-12-08T16:41:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/member\/?p=1198"},"modified":"2013-08-03T14:13:42","modified_gmt":"2013-08-03T19:13:42","slug":"twrap-019-12810","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/member\/applications\/twrap-019-12810","title":{"rendered":"TWRAC 019 (12\/8\/10): Problem Solving &#038; Conflict Resolution"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><span style=\"color: #000000;\">This Week&#8217;s Recovery Application Challenge<\/span><\/h2>\n<h5>Be sure to complete\u00a0<a class=\"wp-oembed\" title=\"Open TWIRL 019\" href=\"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/member\/twirl\/twirl-019-12810\" target=\"_self\"><span style=\"color: #003366;\">TWIRL 019<\/span><\/a> before continuing this TWRAC activity<\/h5>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Effective Problem-Solving &amp; Conflict Resolution<\/strong><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Prayer is the first step in effective conflict resolution and productive problem solving. Having discovered and learned tools for empowered recovery, it is time to develop an applicable recovery action plan to arrive at real solutions to real-life problems.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><strong><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Develop an Action Plan<\/span><\/strong><\/h3>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">1-Identify a current problem or conflict<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Describe a problem that is present in your life that results in your unhappiness<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How has the problem led to feelings of unhappiness?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What does the unhappiness feel like?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">2-Recall events and circumstances in play when the problem\/conflict started<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">When did the problem begin?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What relationships are involved with this problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What were the events and circumstances leading up to the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What are the current circumstances as the result of the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">3-Examine how you are affected by the problem\/conflict<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How are you affected physically and psychologically by the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How are the circumstances of your life affected by the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">4-Examine who else is affected by the problem\/conflict<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What relationships are most affected by the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How would you say those relationships are affected physically and psychologically by the problem as far as you can tell? (Be specific)<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What other relationships are affected by the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How are those relationships affected by the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">5-Examine the first thing you did to try and solve the problem\/conflict<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What were you thinking you needed to do to solve the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What did you think you needed to do to feel better while in the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What did you attempt to do to solve the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What did you do to feel better while in the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Did you solve the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Did the circumstances around and because of the problem get better, become worse, or stay the same? Explain.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">6-Examine other things you did to try and solve the problem\/conflict<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What else were you thinking you needed to do to solve the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What else did you think you needed to do to feel better while in the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What else did you attempt to do to solve the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What else did you do to feel better while in the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Did you solve the problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Did the circumstances around and because of the problem get better, become worse, or stay the same? Explain.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">7-Look back to other times when you had a similar problem\/conflict<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">When in your life did you experience a similar problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How was the problem similar?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What relationships were involved while experiencing the similar problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What were the events and circumstances regarding the problem at that time?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">8-Examine what you recall doing to attempt to solve the problem\/conflict<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What did you do to attempt to solve the similar problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How was what you did to attempt to solve that problem similar to what you have done so far to attempt to solve this current problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How was what you did to attempt to solve that problem different from what you have done so far to attempt to solve this current problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">9-Examine how you and others were affected by that previous similar problem<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How were you affected physically and psychologically by that similar problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How were you affected by what you did to attempt to solve that problem?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How would you say those relationships were affected physically and psychologically by the problem as far as you can tell? (Again, be specific)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">10-Confidence that you can solve your current problem without a working plan<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">On a scale of 0-100 (100 being most), what is your confidence level that you can solve your current problem on your own your way without an effectively working action plan?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">11-Develop an action plan with a minimum of three very specific steps<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Using as many steps as it will take, begin outlining action steps that you believe are necessary to solve your current problem. Be thinking about how you will work the Admit, Believe, Commit strategy into your action steps.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Be specific! \u201cI will to pray more\u201d, or \u201cI will communicate more effectively with my spouse\u201d, or \u201cI will drink less\/quit drinking\u201d, or \u201cI will quit smoking\u201d, or \u201cI will show more respect to my spouse\u201d, or \u201cI will stop this or that\u201d are not sufficient on their own.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Be specific of\u00a0<em><strong>what you will do<\/strong>,<\/em> <strong>how you will do it<\/strong>, and\u00a0<em>when you will do it<\/em> for each step: Instead of \u201cI will pray everyday\u201d, the action step might be: \u201cI will spend at least 10 minutes each morning praying while I am driving to work and be sure to pray for help with my problem.\u201d Instead of \u201cI will quit using (fill in the blank)\u201d, the action step should include daily prayer and attendance at some kind of an accountability support group. Instead of \u201cI will communicate more effectively with my spouse\u201d the action step should involve scheduling times to talk, putting the book or magazine down and turning off the television, along with the implementation of LUV techniques.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">12-Prognosis for resolution of the problem\/conflict without your action plan<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What is the best case scenario for continuing the course you were on solving your problem in your way without the steps in your action plan?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What is the worst case scenario?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Of the two potential outcomes, which is the most likely scenario?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">13-Prognosis for successful resolution of the problem\/conflict with your action plan<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What is the best case scenario for continuing the course you were on solving your problem in your way without the steps in your action plan?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What is the worst case scenario?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Of the two potential outcomes, which is the most likely scenario?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">14-Consider the outcome when your problem having implemented your new plan\u00a0<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How will working your action steps impact your physical and psychological health?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How will working your action steps improve your spiritual health?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How will the affected relationships in your life be better?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How will your circumstances be better?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How can you apply the fundamental elements of your action plan to other problems and circumstances?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How can you apply the ABC strategy from your action plan into an overall approach to daily recovery?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">How would you describe the opportunity for a better future living out your action plan for recovery God\u2019s way?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">15-Confidence level that you will solve your problem working your action plan<\/span><\/h3>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">On a scale of 0-100 (100 being most), what is your confidence level that you can solve your current problem on God\u2019s way through your action plan empowered by the One able, willing, and wanting to help you?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Since fear and doubt are your human nature, take the time now to pray for an increase in faith so that you can grow in confidence.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Regardless of your confidence level, begin to implement your action plan immediately.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Three different times I begged the Lord to take it away.\u00a0Each time he said,\u00a0<em>\u201cMy grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.\u201d<\/em><em> <\/em>So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me.<\/strong> 2 Corinthians 12:8-9 (NLT)<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Dear brothers and sisters,\u00a0when troubles come your way, consider it an opportunity for great joy.\u00a0For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow.\u00a0So let it grow, for when your endurance is fully developed, you will be perfect and complete, needing nothing.\u00a0If you need wisdom, ask our generous God, and he will give it to you. He will not rebuke you for asking.\u00a0But when you ask him, be sure that your faith is in God alone.<\/strong> James 1:2-5a (NLT)<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong>Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.<\/strong> Ephesians 3:20 (NLT)<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">You have worked hard developing your action plan to solve your problem. Now be encouraged to address another problem, following each of the 15 steps to develop an action plan for solving it. 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