{"id":1148,"date":"2010-11-09T12:35:48","date_gmt":"2010-11-09T18:35:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/member\/?p=1148"},"modified":"2013-07-21T11:37:12","modified_gmt":"2013-07-21T16:37:12","slug":"twrap-015-111010","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/member\/applications\/twrap-015-111010","title":{"rendered":"TWRAC 015 (11\/10\/10): Stages of Change in Recovery"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2><span style=\"color: #000000;\">This Week&#8217;s Recovery Application Challenge<\/span><\/h2>\n<h5><span style=\"color: #284927;\">If you have not done so already, please complet<\/span><span style=\"color: #284927;\">e<\/span> <a class=\"wp-oembed\" title=\"Open TWIRL 015\" href=\"http:\/\/www.freedomfrommedom.com\/member\/twirl\/twirl-015-111010\" target=\"_self\"><span style=\"color: #003366;\">TWIRL 015<\/span><\/a> <span style=\"color: #284927;\">prior to beginning TWRAC 015.<\/span><\/h5>\n<h2><em>Stages of Change in Recovery<\/em><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">We may have jumped the gun a bit talking about stages of change in recovery before examining why change needs to occur in the first place. This TWRAC exercise will examine and challenge you to identify who and what needs to change and call you into an ACTION stage of recovery with God&#8217;s help, empowered in your relationship with Christ. Jesus, in His life on earth understood that he lacked authority in his flesh as a human being and completely depended on God the Father&#8217;s authority to recover in the flesh and empower others toward healing and recovery, and even resurrection. The model Jesus used for recovery is the the following words:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><strong><span style=\"color: #000000;\">I can of Myself do nothing. As I hear, I judge; and My judgment is righteous, because I do not seek My own will but the will of the Father who sent Me.<\/span><\/strong> John 5:30<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Jesus A, admitted powerlessness without God; B,believed in the authority of God the Father; and C, committed to human recovery under and in the authority of God the Father. As we lay out the 5Ws of change to problem solve, understand that authentic recovery occurs under and in the authority of God through your relationship with Jesus Christ. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">The firs<\/span>t thing we must do in the process of recovery is to identify the problem. We cannot begin to understand the problem and know why it needs to be resolved until we identify it. That may sound elementary but so many people dealing with depression and hopelessness often end up in that place without a real sense of how they got there. They may realize that they are dissatisfied and uncomfortable, but dissatisfied and uncomfortable with what, and with whom? Why does this thing and that thing, and this person and that person, upset my life? Why am I unhappy? Why am I angry? Why am I jealous? Why don&#8217;t I get what I want? Why is it never enough? Why do I care so much? Why don&#8217;t I care enough?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Alright, so let&#8217;s ask the question:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">-What seems to be the problem, generally speaking?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">-What problems seem\u00a0to be common in the lives of individuals and families, generally speaking?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">-What are the types of problems you want to solve?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">In the world<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">In your circumstances<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">In your relationships<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">-Is there a need for change?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Obvious<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Not so obvious<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">WHO\u00a0in your life needs to change?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">This refers, of course, to the individual seeking recovery but also includes family members, friends, co-workers, the boss, acquaintances, etc.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Speaks to the issue that the recovering person lacks the control\/authority to change\u00a0anything without divine assistance.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">WHAT\u00a0needs to change?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Refers to\u00a0everything the recovering person can list that needs to change in his\/her life.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Behavioral change<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Attitude change<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Relationship change<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Spiritual change <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">WHY\u00a0change?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">This may seem obvious at first but it is\u00a0an opportunity to help recovering people to more deeply examine the \u2018me\u2019dom\u00a0issues in their lives<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Addresses how they have been hurt by others in the present and past; and how patterns of \u2018me\u2019dom behavior (including co-dependent behavior) have hurt others.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Addresses the true need for recovery.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Speaks to the\u00a0purpose and objective of recovery. <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">WHERE\u00a0in your life change should occur?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">An examination of patterns of \u2018me\u2019dom behavior occurring in the lives of recovering people<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Relationships that trigger \u2018me\u2019dom thinking and behavior.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Actual places that trigger \u2018me\u2019dom thinking and behavior.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Events that trigger \u2018me\u2019dom thinking and behavior.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Circumstances that trigger \u2018me\u2019dom thinking and behavior.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Moods and feelings\u00a0that trigger \u2018me\u2019dom thinking and behavior.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Places in the mind that trigger \u2018me\u2019dom thinking and behavior.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">WHEN\u00a0does change happen?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">This is the identification of the GOAL and OBJECTIVES in the endeavor to change from what I was to what I want to become.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What do I look like when these changes occur in my life?<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">What does recovery look like in my life and the life of my family?<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h3><span style=\"color: #000000;\">5 Ws of Change Application and Challenge<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">&#8211;<span style=\"color: #000000;\">WHO\u00a0needs to change?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">For this exercise, keep this personal to you<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">-WHAT\u00a0needs to chan<\/span>ge?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">List specifically those things that you know require change to improve quality of life<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">-WHERE\u00a0doe<\/span><span style=\"color: #000000;\">s change need to happen?<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">List specifically the places and relationships where recovery needs to occur<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">-WHY\u00a0does there need to be change?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">Not always so obvious; think it through<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\">-WHEN\u00a0do you know that <\/span>change is happening?<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"color: #000000;\">When you are committed to the ACTION of recovery and change, what does recovery in your life look like; what does your recovery look like to others in how they see your life<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000;\">PRAYER IS THE FIRST ACTION: Now talk to Jesus. Ask Him to empower you into real recovery. Talk to God specifically about each of the 5Ws of change in recovery; asking for His help. If one of the changes you need to enact and experience is to offer and receive forgiveness, pray out loud the specifics about those areas in your life and relationships requiring mercy. Ask God to communicate to your thoughts and feelings pertaining to His plan and purpose for you. Then, pray for wisdom to receive what He is wanting to tell you and show you. 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